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cdsmom
07:50:05 Tue
Mar 30 2004
Introducing myself
I hope I am doing this right, sorry if I'm not.

I am married to what I believe is a Narcissist. During therepy several years ago the therepist introduced me to the possibility that he was but I didn't really grasp it then.
Now that things have gone off the dead end and we are seperated, I really started researching it and my current counselor says it sounds like he is but can not confirm it without him being tested.
We are at a critical point right now, we have been seperated a year and he is not liking the boundaries I am setting and the disintangling I am doing.
I am having a meeting with a couple at his church that he suggested for counseling us and am going to lay it out on the table for them in hopes they can talk to him about getting help. This is my last chance, I can't take anymore and I don't think he will continue trying to make it work ( I am so rebellious and non-submissive you know).
I love him very much but am out of strength and energy, and am basicly praying for a miracle.
I really appreciate all the info here and your willingness to share.
Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.
ameera
16:29:20 Tue
Mar 30 2004
Re: Introducing myself
You sound like you've been through a trying time in your life with your husband. Don't give up hope, it is the only thing that will give your strength in these times. Now that doesn't mean you accept bad treament. You can still hope for the best for your husband, without allowing him to hurt you. If you're involved in church and your husband is the least bit spiritual there is always the possibility that God will touch his heart, and start to help him heal.

I will say a prayer for you,
Ameera
Mlashtok
17:56:04 Tue
Mar 30 2004
Re: Introducing myself
Hey,

I hope things work out for you.

Good luck,


Matt
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23:16:51 Tue
Mar 30 2004
Re: Introducing myself
Hello and welcome to our community. :smile:

I'll start by applauding your therapist s for not racing to a label without him undergoing specific work. We see too much of the harm of being too anxious for labels. Other than that I think its important to stay focused on both of you as people regardless of what label is in play. I;d encourage you to focus on what is right as opposed to building your life around what's wrong.

Later

TC, whose computer is now kind of working but I still cannot logon. :ohwell:
cdsmom
03:36:33 Wed
Mar 31 2004
Re: Introducing myself
Ameera, that is really my only hope for now, God is the only one who seems to be able to get through to him.

How do you focus on what's good when there is so little left?
Guest [Unregistered]
16:27:40 Wed
Mar 31 2004
Re: Introducing myself
When there is nothing left, you have to focus on the good.

Welcome aboard, I think you will find a lot of insightful people here!

Mel


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