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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 23:34:37 TueNov 16 2004 )

My boyfriend and I are having major issues lately due to his close mindedness and unwillingness to let go of anger about anything that doesn't conform to his opinion. I basically told him that if he wants to keep this relationship, he will have to either go with me to talk to my therapist, or read the Attitudinal Healing books. Of course, he chose the books, but I was skeptical that he would actually read them. Then he called me last night to tell me he was on page 33 of "Love is Letting go of Fear". He said that it was the least he could do, since it is obvious that I'm really trying to make this work, so he should try too. :shocked: Then before we hung up he said he would go read some more before bed and try to "transform" himself. Wouldn't that be nice? :knockonwood:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:50:14 WedNov 17 2004 )

CoolBlonde, I'm impressed that you both care enough about the relationship to work toward making it stronger. I hope the Attitudinal Healing writings are some real benefit to Phil and yourself. If not I may have to make another call to Phil :npdhumor:

My sister and I spent a good part of today talking about various issues within our family and I'm getting an increasingly clear picture of a side of our family that I had never really know before. I think the same is true for him. I'm not sure the time I've been over here aren't some of the most positive either of us have had in a long time, maybe ever in terms of the family. I even see a glimmer of hope that one day the wider family will be able to grow stronger, but that's a story for another day.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:40:03 SatNov 20 2004 )

Yesterday my therapist told me he feels I've made a lot of progress over the past year. I didn't even try and squirm away from him when he said. Could it be that I'm learning how to accept a compliment? :ahappyN:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:34:52 MonNov 22 2004 )

A new friend of mine hugged the stuffings out of me when we met yesterday afternoon. Not only did I not squirm and try and escape it actually felt kind of good. I'm not sure I can recall a hug ever feeling better, I could get to like this in fact. :dance:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:59:09 MonNov 22 2004 )

Hi guys, I've been really scarce on this board as of late. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I haven't seen a whole lot of positive in my life lately. Of course, I don't think I've really been looking hard enough!

However, on Friday I received a call from my lawyer stating that my ex's lawyer called and indicated he did not think that we were that far apart in our thinking and that we should be able to work something out without going to court. We have a tentative meeting date for Dec 13th. Whether or not my lawyer and I keep it depends on how my ex's financial statements look when they show up in the next day or two.

I am hopeful that my ex's lawyer managed to talk a little bit of sense into him (I fully accept we will never see eye to eye) and that he is right. That we will be close enough we can work out a deal without dragging it through the court system.

Take care everyone!!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:14:08 WedNov 24 2004 )

I'm really excited about the holiday season this year because I feel as though I'm more connected to my family than ever before. We're a longs ways away from normal, but some degree of peace and happiness may not be that far in the future. I cannot think of anything to be much more thankful of. :cookiemonster:

Happy holidays to those here in the US and to the rest of you please pardon us if we are scarce over the day next ofr so.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:51:17 FriNov 26 2004 )

I noticed something about myself as I was eating dinner at with my family on Thanksgiving. That feeling of emptiness that has been with me for so long, most of life has been replaced with a feeling of connection, of being accepted for who I am. I feel love and I feel as though this love is being returned. Its now clear to me the emptiness I feel has in fact been a very deep depression. The depression may not be entirely lifted but the whole it created within me has been filled by love and that gives me reason to believe once again that healing truly is possible.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:55:17 FriNov 26 2004 )

I've started working with a psychologist. The focus is on me rather than what is wrong with other people in my life. I have hope because at the same time my husband is also working with a psychologist!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:22:18 MonNov 29 2004 )

I feel as though I'm slowly beginning to make peace with myself. Its a long, long haul but I feel more energy to do my daily work thanks to less time spent being on guard or defensive. :cookiemonster:



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You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self . .. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime , you are the only one you will never lose.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:24:07 MonNov 29 2004 )

My family and I made it through Thanksgiving without any fights about what I'm doing with my life. This has got to be the first time that's ever happened. Maybe there's hope afterall? But Christmas has always been we've saved our really big fights. So time will tell. I'm going to count this as a positive until proven otherwise.

  
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