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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:29:13 WedNov 5 2003 )

I just finished reading the book by Stephen Johnson. I feel more hopeful than I have since learning about this whole disorder. Thanks everyone for leading me to this information.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:32:55 WedNov 5 2003 )

It's good to face your fears, Hewho, but I must admit that I hate going to the dentist's too. I keep saying that I haven't got enough money but I seem to be able to find money for other things!

And it's great to hear about all the good things in everybody's lives. It's just about time for me to go to bed - today has been a good day. My 12 year old son asked me why I was so happy and I could honestly say because the sun was shining and there were birds singing in the trees, etc. He then went on to say "Dad's not as happy as you - that's strange because he has so much more than you - you've got a lot less but you're happier".

My ex is financially well-off and the boys have had to adjust to a substantial drop in living standard since he left. This statement of my son's allowed me to talk to him about how happiness doesn't come from having material things but from inside yourself. Something I think that I had probably lost sight of in the past few years. I've realised how much emphasis my ex put on being able to earn lots of money, having a bigger house, etc. I realise that he is trying to fill his emptiness by striving for material things and that I got caught up in that. I lived my childhood in poverty and it was great to not have to worry about money.

When he first left, I was worried about going back to living with less but today I realised that I have adjusted and, in many ways, I am happier than I have been for a long time.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:12:52 WedNov 5 2003 )

I'll vote for laughing gas in therapy. What the heck someone had to say it. :biggrin:

I just survived an office warming party where all anyone did was small talk. We've discussed the evils of small talk before. I felt as though I was standing around in my underwear. I was amazed at the end of the party when an old associate said he was impessed with my work and wanted to get together soon and discuss a possible new arrangement. Its possible this could be a big contract. Maybe small talk isn't so bad after all! :claphands:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:49:50 WedNov 5 2003 )

There was glimmer of light that cut through the darkness in our therapy session yesterday. I believe our therapist finally saw some of my husband's struggle with this disorder. Now, I am hopeful that this may be the first stepping stone towards my husband's healing path.

Everybody help me say, "Hallelujah"!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:52:20 WedNov 5 2003 )

A while back I posted in another forum about a crisis in our community. The only homeless shelter which accepts mentally ill paitents was having a massive financial crisis with debts over $80,000 and the federal government cutting off funding. They say they needed to raise $50, 000 by yesterday or close their doors and putting 29 people on the street. I just heard the news they raised the money and at least will be able to stay open until March! This means at least these people will have a place through the winter and hopefully beyond. Its great to see what people can do when they put their mind to it. :biggrin:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:18:48 ThuNov 6 2003 )

Today started out as kind of yucky, murky, blah day. As I was slopping across the parking lot toward work I look down just in time to see a $5 bill. I cannot recall ever finding anything other than a few cents in the gutter. I know money isn't everything but it might have been an important message to stay aware of what's around me. One just never knows what one's missing as we slop around unaware.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:37:03 ThuNov 6 2003 )

I am feeling optimistic that this temp position could become permanent. The gal who I am replacing and who is also training me, has told me not to get my hopes up too high. She doesn't want me to get hurt. On the other hand, several people have asked me if I'm going to apply for the position when it becomes open and how to "win" it. The position will be changed from what it is now to whatever "they" decide it to be.

I shall continue to do my best and hope for the best outcome. On the other hand, if I do not get the position when all is said and done, I can live with it. If the job, the boss, and I are not a good match, then I really don't want to be there. I KNOW that I will get a good job that fits me well at some point.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:55:15 ThuNov 6 2003 )

Hey, it's Hestia, trouble logging in, due not to any network problems but simple fatigue.

Got mad at my spouse today. He emailed 30+ people to ask for prayer because we're separated. He sent the email in both of our names. It seemed like such a blatant need for attention. It pissed me off. He said well you email people and I said, yeah, six of my closest friends, not people in the administration where we went to school or people we are loosely connected with professionally.

We left each other angry. I came in the house and thought about this board. What he did seemed manipulative and self- centered. But my thought about this board and the folks here made me ask myself some questions, too. I've coped with emailing 6 close friends-- he doesn't have close friends, just the kind of folks he emailed. And even if this all ends in divorce, which I'm pretty sure it will, and the 30+ people he emailed take his "side", what does that really cost me, other than some embarrassment. The six friends I have who have already been with me to hell and back are still going to be there for me; I am the only real friend he has, and he's losing me, and none of the tricks in his bag that have always worked before are working any more. He must feel confused and terrified. So I called him and told him I forgave him, but to please not send out any more emails with my name on them without my permission. And to try and keep private things private. He thanked me and said, "You have been so good to me even though we're separated, I just can't believe it." This board is helping me do that, to treat him with dignity and respect. I think this all is a positive step in my healing.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:12:16 ThuNov 6 2003 )

Hi Hestia - I think you are doing a fantastic job relating to your spouse. I know just where you are coming from. The week after my ex left me for another woman, he sent an email to all our friends and acquainances - "Linda and I have separated and are at the stage of talking about child access and property settlement". I had told 2 people and had not yet got over the shock. I'm afraid I reacted with anger and not understanding so I am awed at your ability to show such compassion.

This morning I got up and did housework - polishing furniture and stuff rather than just brush the floor and throw things in the dishwasher - and now the place is shining so I can relax!!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:54:47 ThuNov 6 2003 )

I have been delaying doing the work my therapist asked me to do following the last session. My only excuse being that its hard and will challenge me to really get into the heart of some of this healing work. This morning I woke up with a start and rather than coming up with excuses I went straight to the work of creating my sacred place in my room where I will be doing my work of meditiation from here on. It feels good to have gotten beyond one boundry and have a place whose exclusive purpose is to help me find my soul.



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