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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:53:57 MonMar 7 2005 )

:biggrin: Tony & Cool Blonde, congratulations on stepping out there and starting relationships. That takes courage! This is a giant step that implies trusting yourself and another.

Tony, how did your cooking go? My friend is a great cook so I wanted to impress him. Made cheese steak in the oven and when I went to take it out, the whole bottom fell out of the pyrex dish. No one told me you can't broil in pyrex. So we had grilled cheese & soup. He's still laughing about that. Hope your experience was better!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:55:14 ThuMar 10 2005 )

I had my six month review at my new job this morning and the strength they highlighted was my ability to work with people of varied backgrounds and temperments. :dance: I recall the day when I used to dismiss anyone who didn't see the world my way so I must be moving in the right direction.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:07:33 ThuMar 10 2005 )

On a tip from the Being in the Moment link I made a list of all my negative memories yesterday. It said that was just taking an inventory, to know what they were. But I felt it would be a good thing to burn the list, just in case. It felt good! I meditated before I went to sleep and although it was hard to keep focus, I think it may have worked because I woke up feeling much lighter.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:02:23 SatMar 12 2005 )

I have fairly frequent bad dreams but last night I had a really good one, in which I was part of a class and the psychology and mental illness topic came up, and I was able to explain to the group about labels and disorders and how times have changed, that healing is possible, largely by building on the positve rather than dwelling on the negative. I can't remember the details, but woke up with a good feeling!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:41:52 SunMar 13 2005 )

My husband cleaned the house yesterday without me nagging and complaining about it needing to be cleaned. There really is a first time for everything. Now I have a Sunday free to do what I want.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:29:25 SunMar 13 2005 )

I had a surprise yesterday when 3 people I don't know too well stopped by my house out of the blue just to say hello to me. I opened the door and chatted with them, and really felt good feelings coming from them. But I didn't invite them in, we just talked a bit and they left. Right afterward I regretted it, and as more time passed, the worse I felt about it. There are so many things I would have liked to ask them, and they brightened my day, imagine if they stayed a bit longer how nice that would have been. I often feel there is something terrible,messy or shameful in my house, but what house could be in worse condition than the rudeness of not inviting friendly people in? So I vowed to never make anyone stand on the porch again. Then I worried I would forget. Then it occurred to me I must be making progress to even be concerned about not letting someone in. I can't remember ever regretting it before. So I decided to write it here as a positive, to count it as a step toward growth rather than a new anxiety or guilt. I think it will work better that way.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 09:56:55 MonMar 14 2005 )

I seem to be facing my difficult emotions rather than running away from them. This is one of the most positive signs I've seen in all of my efforts at healing :givemebeer:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:43:16 WedMar 16 2005 )

My therapist complimented me this week for a noticable shift in my focus from worrying about my son's issues to working on healing myself. It felt good to have this pointed out and not reject or brush it off as not important. It might be a little step but definitely one that's moving forward.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:48:19 ThuMar 17 2005 )

I have a job! The first gainful employment I've had in a long time. Interesting that now that I'm on SSI I can find work. I can legally earn something like $850 a month and keep my benefits, so this is cool. I'm delivering cow food supplies three times a week. Its kind of smelly job but considering my history any job is something to get excited about. They didn't even raise an eyebrow about my criminal history, so I guess there is some hope things are getting better.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:54:38 SunMar 20 2005 )

Congratulations on getting the job, friendly_ASPD :dance: Maybe your employers are more interested with what is happening right now in your life over what has taken place in the past.

This has been an interesting weekend because my new SO and I agreed to referee my 12 year-old niece's birthday slumber party. We had 10 11 and 12 year-old girls storming around the house beginning about 4:00 Friday afternoon. I told my SO and others that if she was still speaking to me when this weekend was over I would know that there was something very seriously wrong with her :npdhumor: It has been an adventure for me because 95% of the kids I work with in my job are boys. I thought those boys had prepared me for everything but not once have they ever trapped me in the bathroom and tried to put makeup all over me. :help:

Overall it was a good time and I think my friend and I learned a lot about each other through out interaction with the girls. It definitely was an adventure, but one that I'd have to say was positive. So I've now survived a 12 year-old girl slumber party, does this make me an adult?



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