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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:27:39 MonNov 10 2003 )

Out of total desperation I cleaned my house in search of two books the university says I borrowed a year ago and were threatening all kinds of evil if I didn't return. I found both books after 3 hours of cleaning. The house looks better, I feel better and the university folks will soon be happy. Today clean house tomorrow clean mind? I hope so.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:57:19 MonNov 10 2003 )

Our family is giving hug a day thing a try. Today is day one. My deepest secret is a kind of liked it and I'm looking forward to a hug tomorrow. :smile:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:58:05 MonNov 10 2003 )

I pulled myself out of bed and made it to work this morning. Some days we have to be thankful for small favors which allow us to do what we don't want to.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 23:44:00 MonNov 10 2003 )

Bikerboy if you looking for another house to clean you can stop by my place at any time.

I trutfully have a good news, bad news deal happennig so I'll start with the good and work ther other in some place else. I finished my refinishing job in the basement and I'm still friends with the neighbor who insisted on helping. It was tense there for a while but I think we both learned something about being friends. No complaints here.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:00:55 TueNov 11 2003 )

good for you Taram!

I can't make it through a day without lots of hugs!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:16:49 TueNov 11 2003 )

I had a great, productive weekend.

On Saturday, I sorted out my winter clothes (turtle necks!!!) and put my shorts away. I also dug out some neat winter garb my cousin gave to me.

Yesterday, I cleaned out the inside of my car. It feels better all over. My son came over and watched the old movie, "Night of the Hunter" with me. He wasn't thrilled with it and he did kind of like it. I was tickled that he didn't complain through out it. I took him to see Matrix-Revolutions and he bought the pop corn. We had a good discussion about the movie afterward. We concluded that although all the Matrix movies are good, the first one is the best. Then we watched Jackie Chan's "Shanghai Knights (?)."

I sent him off to work this morning (he stays with me on Sunday nights) with some vegetable beef soup I made on Saturday.

Tonight I'm catching up on the forums! I've missed this thread immensly!!! I love reading all of the neat things everyone is doing and feeling.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:18:39 TueNov 11 2003 )

I'm not much for warm and fuzzy momentsm but I have to admit this thread has a nice flow to it. In the beginnig I thought a lot of the posts would be more trival than they have been. So people are really surprising me in a nice way. How's our pace. Will we reach a 1,000 by the end of the year?

My therapist has suggested I make time teach day to be with myself. Just be aware of what's going on with my inner being. The first time I did this is weird. Its like okay from 5 til 6 I'm going to be with myself. Kind of makes me wonder where I've been the rest of the time. Best not to ask. :smile: The last few days I've actually felt that when I'm with myself there is much less of the empty feeling. I could get used to this.






  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:55:15 TueNov 11 2003 )

I forgot to mention a positive over that happaned over the weekend. Some of the longtime members here might remember the crisis around my ex girlfriend and my old job. I really hated to give that job up and I miss the people there. Unfortunately I've not had a lot of time to see them since leaving. I ran into my former boss on Saturday and he told me everyone misses me and the place isn't the same without me. It felt good to hear even if he was only being nice.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:34:36 TueNov 11 2003 )

Hewho - I was wondering how you got on with your neighbour - it's great that things worked out well.

A week ago my son tried to drive my car, resulting in a $500 repair to the gear box. I only got the car back on Friday. His dad had promised to teach him to drive when he was 13 but that never happened.

Today I took him out to a dirt track and I let him try again. I was terrified that he would cause some more damage :shocked: but I also wanted to show that I accepted that we all make mistakes and that, just because he had stuffed the gear box last time, did not mean that I would not trust him again. He had FUN! He kept calm and LISTENED to what I was telling him instead of getting frustrated and angry. He's too young to legally drive so we only had a limited space where he could go but he got up to 2nd gear. We were in a picnic area but as it is a weekday there was nobody else around so he's driving and I'm saying "Watch that barbecue - go round this tree" It was an obstacle course (I must admit that my knuckles were white). He stalled on a hill so I made him do a hill start - and he did it!

Most of the kids around here learn to drive at his age on dirt tracks so now he does not need to feel as if he is missing out. It was so good to see how proud he was of himself as I could honestly tell him that he handled the car really well. I'm going to take him to a new housing development that's just being built - no houses yet but the roads are in. A policeman's wife told me that that is where she takes her 12 year old in the evenings to learn to drive!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:58:57 TueNov 11 2003 )

Something very strange, albeit pleasant has happened lately which gives me up for the future. People who know me moderately well have approached me several times and said I seem to not get angry in the midst of a crisis and ask how I do it. This surprises me becauuse I recall the days when people worried about my uncontrollable temper

There is a growing crisis in our community between the progressive and conservatives. It is getitng ugly and tempers are hot. A friend came to me yesterday and asked how I stay cool in all of this. They said its like I never get angry. I definitely do get angry but I have learned to carry it differently. Its a good feeling to know that people seem to view me differently, even it its not exaclty how I see myself.



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