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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:59:54 MonDec 8 2003 )

Great news about your son, Balbrenny.

I have formally committed to seeing my Dad when he comes to my sister's house for Christmas. This will be our first in person contact in a very, very long time. I have some anxiety about this decision, but overall I believe its the right thing to do.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:25:33 MonDec 8 2003 )

Another day and yet another hug. Last night I friend called and asked if I wanted to meet someone new. I need to think about this (we're talking a new girlfriend here). I'm still not sure aboutr elationships, but I'm open to learning more. At least I think I am.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:27:26 MonDec 8 2003 )

Congrats Balbrenny! Hope all goes well.

I just got off the phone with my husband. We managed to set up a schedule for the children that will suit both our needs until the end of the year. His original intention was to take the boys to the city, yet again, this weekend. He has to play on Friday night and was going out on Saturday night. Long story short, he agreed not to do that. I got him to see how it is not necessary to take them to the city only to have someone else babysit them when I would be willing to switch weekends. He agreed to switch for the following weekend which works well for me as it is my staff Christmas party. He is playing in the band that weekend as well, but promised he would be available to put the children to bed.

It's nice we can actually talk things out and come to a resolution that suits both of us. We haven't been able to do that for a long time.

Hopefully it is something we can continue.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 22:14:01 MonDec 8 2003 )

All weekend I've been battling the kind of anger that in the past has lead me to lash out against people. Thus far I haven't done anything but some really good ideas are coming to mind. I think it counts as a positive that I am staying out of trouble.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:11:04 TueDec 9 2003 )

Hewho ... it absolutely counts as a positve that you are staying out of trouble. Keep up the good work!

I had a lovely chat with my father yesterday. It was just like old times. We laughed, joked vand made each other happy. It seems that the prognosis is indeed very good. Nevertheless, our recent differences pale in comparison to his current health concerns.

Last week, my boss rushed to the hospital in regards to one of her daughters. Her drug addicted daughter, who has a 5 yr old, had just had a baby. Boss didn't even know her daughter was pregnant. No one in the family did. The baby was born with meth and THC in her blood. Of course, both children were taken away from their mother by the state. Boss took a day off and cobbled together a plan with the other grandmother to care for the children and took the plan to court. Boss bought a crib and all of the stuff a newborn babe needs for her to care for her in her home.

On Friday, I found out that the daughter had been homeless. I felt so sad for the 5 yr old. She had been homeless, hadn't been in school, her mother has disappeared, she has a brand new sister, and is being shuffled between grandparents. My heart broke.

I figured the poor little mite probably didn't have a thing to her name. I had great fun over the weekend putting together a "Big Sister" gift for her. I picked up for her a newborn baby doll (to cuddle or vent on), a couple of books, a Barbie and clothes, some small packs of mini M&Ms and a little carton of Pepperidge Farm "Goldfish." I put them all in a net zipper bag so she could take it with her.

I was a bit apprehensive about giving it to Boss for her granddaughter. When I gave it to Boss this morning, she was very touched. Come to find out, the granddaughter had NOTHING of her own. I had tears in my eyes. Boss gave me a hug and told me that I'm special.

Whatever my mother wasn't as a mother, she wasn't addicted to drugs. I did have a home. I did have toys. I did go to school. I did have my own possessions. I've also had a really tough time financially the last 18 months. I feel so good that I seized the opportunity to make life a little better for a little girl.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:16:08 TueDec 9 2003 )

You bet staying out of trouble counts, hewho!

Life, you just made me cry! Goodonya!

I am happy because the last few days at work have actually been relatively productive. I'm still not up to a hundred percent, but I'm definately better than I was after my hubby first moved out!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:18:07 TueDec 9 2003 )

My youngest son got an award for academic excellence at his school presentation night tonight.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:54:01 TueDec 9 2003 )

Job well done, Hewho! On positive step leads to another. Keep your head to the sky.

In the five years that we have lived in our home, this is the first time my children and I have ever had Christmas lights on the house. They are all so very excited. My husband is a very gifted young man, and by him being a professional floral designer he is always making beautiful things for others. This year, he "hooked our house up" for the holidays with beautiful blue lights. It looks and feels good.

Peace & balance,

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:55:00 TueDec 9 2003 )

Fantastic news on staying out of trouble Hewho.

Last night I attended the final Christmas program of the season that my kids will be participating in. It has been a wonderful experience to get to see these school programs this year. Its added a lot to the season and made me realize some of whats been missing from previous years. I like the feeling of being a part of their life during this and all times of the year.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:00:10 TueDec 9 2003 )

Good job, hewho!
Life, your story is beautiful. You've inspired me to look around more closely and see how I can help someone else this season. It seems the more we need ourselves, the more important it is to give from that. So I'm going to think about what I need in my life and how I might help someone else who needs the same thing. Like right now I need safety and peace for myself and my son, so maybe I should call the dv shelter in town and ask if anyone there could use something-- maybe even a few things to help set up a new home for herself and her child? Yeah! This would definately be a positive step.

  
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