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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:33:10 WedOct 29 2003 )

All this talk about the ego and soul led me to go check out a book of poems by Rumi. Its kind of cool. I've never been much of poetry fan, gross understatement, but I actually am enjoying reading this. It makes me feel warm inside. This is cool. :biggrin:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:11:13 WedOct 29 2003 )

I don't always understand all the reasons why but each day I feel as though I believe healiing really is possible. I can even see places where changes are happening in my life that is making life worth living. There is no doubt the people here are a big part of this new hope and for that all I can say is :thankyou:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:17:19 WedOct 29 2003 )

HeWho, learning new ways to meet daily challenges isn't easy. You are making some tremendous strides toward healing.

Tc, I'm so tickled for you that you are finding healing fun.

I had fun at Toastmasters last night. I received quite a bit of positive feedback on the evaluation I gave although I didn't win the ribbon. I thoroughly appreciate the wonderful Toastmasters group and their wholly supportive attitudes.

Cheers!
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:15:11 WedOct 29 2003 )

I just read an excellent article which talks about setting the intention of healing. Thinking about setting intentions helps me understand the strength of this community. We come together with the clear intention of healing and that is why I believe there is such incredible support within this forum. Like the song says, be you, do what you do. And keep the intention of healing.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:09:04 WedOct 29 2003 )

Ok, today a positive step we made was to tell our son that we are separating. My husband held our son in his lap, and I told him that daddy was going to live in a new house. I told him it wasn't anything he did, mommy and daddy both love him and will always take care of him. I told him he would still see daddy every other day (this is true) and on some weekends would go and stay with daddy at daddy's house. He said, "Daddy, we can share your house." Of course, then he said, "Daddy, don't go." But his dad was great, he said, "I have to, but I still love you and I'll see you all the time, and we'll have fun together just like we do now." Then my son said, "Mommy, will we get to go to the airport?" I explained that we wouldn't have to, daddy was close enough to get to by car, only 10 minutes away, not far away like grandma and grandpa. And then he said, "can we go to the airport for fun?" And we said, yes, we could still go to the airport for fun (he likes to do this.)

I know it will be harder than this many times when he wants his dad and his dad isn't here, but just the way my husband and I worked together on this gives me hope that we can continue to work together to do what is best for our son. And it's also positive because I really wanted to wimp out, and tell my husband he could stay, because I didn't want to upset our son. But I found the courage. And I am just going to be happy for today that today went so well.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:02:17 WedOct 29 2003 )

Today, I come here with a spirit of thanksgiving and peace knowing that I am acquiring more knowledge about the human spirit and mind through this site.

Yesterday, I was able to complete a phone conversation with my ex, whom I believe exhibits some NPD traits and may suffer from NPD, without allowing him to ruin my day. I was able to recognize certain behaviors and then apply what I have learned, knowing his early history of physical and emotional abuse by his family has helped me get through the phone conversation much differently that I would have in the past. I was able to look past his difficulties in expressing himself and actually HEAR what he was saying with an unconditionally ear.

Today, I have a spirit of thanksgiving
I thank God for directing me here.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:04:08 ThuOct 30 2003 )

Be yourself - it's so worth it. You are most engaging and attractive when you are yourself!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:47:19 ThuOct 30 2003 )

One thing I did toward my healing today was stayed more external. I can be SO internal and spend SO much time in my head - not really noticing what is really going on all around me. Today I tried to be aware of that more - and focused on staying more external and aware of my surroundings more. :claphands:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 10:11:40 ThuOct 30 2003 )

Hestia- I'm glad you found the courage both to tell your son what's happening with Daddy and to stick with what you believe is in the best interest of the family. Healing requires a lot of courage and its a powerful energy which allow us to work through rough moments.

Yesterday was a very interesting day for me in many respects. I met with my therapist and we had one of the better sessions ever. One thing which stands out is that he placed his hand on my shoulder while directing my attention to a picture on the other side of the room. Instead of melting as I often do when someone touches me, I felt a warmth unlike anything I have ever felt. It was as though his positive energy was energing my body and soul.



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You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self . .. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime , you are the only one you will never lose.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 10:31:24 ThuOct 30 2003 )

Tonight I was out at the local chip shop when I saw my ex and the woman he left me for heading in my direction. My hands were shaking as I paid for the chips - I couldn't stop looking at the door in case they came in.

But they went into the pub next door. Although it has been over a year since he left and he lives locally, this is the first time that I have seen him unexpectedly and I have never seen her before.

I was upset at the time but I came home and have been fine - able to joke and talk to the kids, etc instead of collapsing in a heap or being torn apart with anger :spinsmile:

  
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