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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:38:29 WedDec 24 2003 )

Merry Christmas, everyone! I had a good friend come over this morning and we played with my three year old in the snow. Then she went home and my boy crashed. I am going to take a nap too, and just leave the house how it is and take care of myself today. Tomorrow is the day of the husband and mother in law. Of course, it's also the day my little one gets his toys from Santa!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:38:22 WedDec 24 2003 )

Things aren't going so great but my positive is that I'll save it (or try to) until after Christmas. Let's call this making the best of an ugly mess.:crazy:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:58:53 WedDec 24 2003 )

I hope everyone has a good time on Christmas. This is not my favorite holiday. I'm making a pledge to myself to do enough positive work this next year that comes next Christmas it really will be a joyful time. Saying the words is hard enough--this is a major committment on my behalf.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:16:14 ThuDec 25 2003 )

Merry Christmas everyone! I am going to go do my annual tradition of wrapping gifts while watching "A Christmas Carol" on TV.

Good luck on your resolution for next year, Hewho. I think just being willing to make changes is the most important step toward healing.

Here's hoping that we all get to feel as happy as little kids on Christmas! :cookiemonster:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:12:52 ThuDec 25 2003 )

Whew - it's over!!

The boys are in bed and I have time to look back over today and I realised how far I have come emotionally in the past 12 months. There were a couple of situations involving my ex which would have left me boiling with anger a few months ago and today I didn't even react at all, in spite of all the emotional stuff around Christmas!!

Hope everybody has had a great day!!

love to you all

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:01:52 ThuDec 25 2003 )

Merry Christmas, All!

Life today is a blessing to be praised. I hope you all will find joy & hope today.

I spent my Christmas Eve and morning with my beautiful children. They have brought my spirit pure joy and happiness during this difficult time. Without them, I do not know what I would be doing now. As many of you may have guessed, my husband is MIA again. I believe his struggle with the pressure from his ex- spouses, etc, and NPD caused him to experience a deep emotional crisis and decide to flee.

I am not devasted this time, thank God! I have peace knowing that I have done my very best and all I could possibly do to help my husband and salvage our marriage.

I will drop in from time to time to see how each of you are healing. It has been my sincere pleasure to have met all of you here. I loved your sharing your his/herstories, knowledge and patience with me. I will continue to work on my issues with my therapist to help me heal from the affects the negative behaviors I experienced. In 2004, I will end our marriage and turn to the next chapter in my life.

Peace & blessings always,

Nandi :loveya:





  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:04:23 FriDec 26 2003 )

Merry Christmas everyone.

I hope its been a great day for everyone.

I'm doing Christmas in two shifts this year and round 1 is offiically over. I journey to my sister's house and celebrated Christmas with her family and my Father. This was my first time I have seen my Father in a long time. Too long to count right now.

It was awkward because I didn't even recognize him when I first saw him. He's certainly not the man I knew as a little boy. I guess that's not a great surrpise seeing as that was almost 30 years ago some of my lasting memories of him were formed.

I might write about this experience in more details after I've had a day or two (a week?) to reflect. It was an interesting time that got off to a wild start. The elecricity went off at my sister's house for 2 1/2 hours. My 14 year old nephew cannot sleep if there is a change in the room such as the electricity going off. He also cannot go back to sleep after waking up. So he woke his parents up to tell them the electricity was off. One thing lead to another and we had finished breakfast by 6:00AM, everyone showered and the presents were done by 8.

Round two of Christmas with my Mother and step-father, my sister and her family and another sister and her family comes this Sunday-Monday .Life is interesting. :wtf:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:39:25 FriDec 26 2003 )

I had a very quiet Christmas with my Mom and my aunt. They wanted to go out to dinner, so I took them out to a Chinese restaurant and then we went to my aunt's house and opened gifts. I spent last Christmas with them too, but I was a lot more depressed last year since my boyfriend and I had just broken up. So, this year was a lot more peaceful. I still have to exchange gifts with my one brother who lives nearby, but no one's heard from him, or my brother from Colorado yet, but that's the norm for our family. :crazy: We'll catch up with them eventually.

Good luck with your family Christmas celebrations, Tony. Hopefully the one with your Mom and her husband will go smoothly.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation Nandi, but it's good to know that you are at peace with it. You have done everything you could, but of course it takes two people to make a relationship work, and it sounds like your husband isn't able or willing to deal with his issues yet. It's good that you have your therapist and your spirituality to help you get through this. I hope you will come back to visit from time to time and let us know how you are doing. :smile:




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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:37:31 FriDec 26 2003 )

I had a more peaceful Christmas than I feared. Better than in many years. It gives me hope next year and beyond will be even better. There was not a single fight this year about presents and money. I honestly don't remember that ever happening before.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:03:54 FriDec 26 2003 )

After the kids were asleep last night I received a phone call from one of my distant brothers. Its the first time we've talked in a long time. We haven't even exchanged cards over the past few seasons. He told me that he just entered therapy and is working on some issues. His therapist has suggested he has strong narcissistic traits. Now there is a big surprise. We talked about the work I'm doing in therapy and I mentioned this community. Who knows, he might just decide to join though I think it may be a while before he's ready for this group. Our talk may have been the best part of the season. It gives me renewed hope as we start a new year.

  
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