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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:26:58 SatJan 3 2004 )

TC, my son waited until 6pm to go to the pool because it was too hot to go earlier (and he still had to put on sunblock)!! :evillaugh: My other son is into going to natural pools locally but didn't go today as it was too hot for the walk down and back up. It is now 1a.m. and I am sitting in a sleeveless top, with all the windows open, with a cool bag from the freezer on my neck to stop me from sweating. I don't feel guilty. I feel envious - I don't like it this hot!!

Today I did some hard thinking. I spoke with my sons re. our options as to where to live when the property settlement comes through. And I have made a decision. A huge positive for me - bipolars are terrible at making decisions - and I'm a Gemini as well :biggrin:

I've decided that no matter what it takes, I will rebuy in the area where we now live. If I did not have children, I would move far away - I have friends in other towns that are urging me to move and I don't want to stay around here - too many memories - too many people that know me as part of a couple. Personally, I would like a fresh start.

Financially, this places a huge burden on me that, at 50 years old, I don't want. I'd also like to live nearer the coast instead of an hour's drive away. But I want to do what is best for my sons. My youngest has been accepted into a local high school which he really wants to attend and my eldest has his social life around here (although that causes me lot of headaches, in itself!).

And I do have a huge support network locally and two businesses which I have set up in the last 18 months and are only now starting to expand. So the decision is made - I've just got to make it happen.

P.S. Anybody who wants to experience an Aussie Christmas and New Year is welcome to book in for future events!!


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:36:55 SatJan 3 2004 )

I don't really know why but I slept for over seven hours last night without getting up even once. That has to be some kind of a personal record. I actually feel alive and ready to go with a day, which is a strange feeling. Its times like these I wish I could find out what the magic is and put it in a bottle.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:03:59 SatJan 3 2004 )

My son invited my wife and I to come with him last night to an open meeting of AA. It was good to see the other people there and hear their stories. It makes me feel better that he has connected with people who I believe in my heart can help him beat his addiction. He says he remains committed to therapy and doing the work in AA as well. I cannot ask for more. A feeling of hope is slowly returning. Things almost seemed too good to be true for a while and I guess I learned the lesson about not believing what appears to be too good to be true. Things are looking up and its a beautiful day with the temps in the 60's.

Sorry, TC. :peace:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:39:13 SatJan 3 2004 )

My husband called this morning and apologized for not completing his end of a joint project by deadline. He said he will call the client first thing Monday and explain. This is a first. I have never, ever, ever known him to take this kind of responsibility. A new year, a new man? Time will tell but I'm hopeful.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:28:20 SunJan 4 2004 )

I just came from church and lunch and am feeling calm. I can't say peaceful, but I feel calm. I guess that's a start.

My baby boys come home today!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 23:34:22 SunJan 4 2004 )

My eldest son has been speaking about getting a part-time job after school for ages but never did anything about it. Last week he wrote a resume and took it round some local shops. I thought he didn't have much of a chance getting anything as it was just after Christmas. However he has an interview in half-an hour!! Even if he doesn't get it, at least he is doing something positive to make changes in his life.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:06:26 MonJan 5 2004 )

This past week has been a zoo at work. Friday was a deadline for a project that actually started last winter (before i was even on staff). Funny thing is that looking back I get the feeling there was a lot of stress, but I don't have the feeling that I crumbled under it. Rather than doing something wild to sabotage my whole career I managed to say focused. I think having some distance in personal relationships has been helpful because I don't feel crazed in other areas. There is a downside but that's for another day. I truly feel good about how things went and I like this feeling. :cookiemonster:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 05:41:13 MonJan 5 2004 )

My son got the job and started right away! It's in the local discount store and he is handling cash and serving customers. This will be a huge boost for his self-esteem!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:05:02 MonJan 5 2004 )

Today officially ends the holidays as the kids have to go back to school. :cry: Its always a bummer to see the holidays come to an end because that means its time to get back to work for real. My boss won't be back for another week but the case load will start to pick up and I'll have to get into it again.

The positive out of all this is that I have spent a lot of time learning some new techniques that I think will be helpful in my work. I tend to not always study the job the way I should. I'm anxious to try some of what I've learned but hope not to get any cases too soon because I don't mind not being busy. :cookiemonster:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:26:43 MonJan 5 2004 )

I just saw the post about Balbrenny's son getting the job. Congratulations to him and to you as well. :biggrin: I hope this works out well for all concerned. Meanwhile, I'll keep pumping coffee into my system and hope my brain wakes up soon. :ohwell:



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You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self . .. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime , you are the only one you will never lose.

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