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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:06:37 MonJan 5 2004 )

Thanks, Tc. I'm really feeling proud of him although I have reservations about the work practices at the shop - in fact I know that some of the stuff today was illegal. After 3 hours training, he was left alone to run the shop - and I mean run it. At closing time he had to balance the money, set the alarms and lock up. He worked a total of 8 and a half hours without a break (the shop was not very busy but there was nobody to relieve him) and without a seat, in 35C heat in an un-airconditioned building.

He brought the keys home with him and is going back at 7.30am to open up the shop. This is too much responsibility for a 15 year old on his first day in his first job. But the positives are his attitude. Although he was feeling a bit angry at being left in the shop all day without enough training, he wants to keep going with the job. I don't know how long he will last in these conditions but I am so proud of the fact that he got out there and got a job and wants to go back after a dreadful first day.

These hours are only for the summer holidays, of course. This is our long break so we have another 3 weeks to go.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:20:52 MonJan 5 2004 )

Balbrenny, its great that your son has a job. I agree that's a lot of responsiblity for a 15 year-old. I hope it helps him grow rather than becoming some kind of headache.

The other day I treated myself to my first ever massage. I've got to admit it felt really good. Even better than being hugged. I might just have to do this more often.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:28:57 MonJan 5 2004 )

Saturday afternoon I attended a party where my ex-wife was at. She came with a man but not the person she's dated off and on for awhille. The three of us actually managed to engage in relatively friendly smalltalk :shocked: The mood was tense because none of us are much good at smalltalk. Overall the party was very enjoyable other than her being there. Once upon a time I would've probably allowed her to destroy the event for me. I must be growing because I did not give her this kind of power.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:06:42 MonJan 5 2004 )

Sunday waa 16 weeks without using. So far, so good. I survived New Year's which is even better.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:15:37 TueJan 6 2004 )

Congratulations friendly! Keep it up, one day at a time.

That's great news about your son's job, Balbrenny. He might really enjoy having that kind of responsibility once he gets the hang of it.

I managed to have a relatively calm and productive day despite feeling anxious and grumpy this morning. I have been trying to worry less about things, so I guess this is some progress.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:24:28 TueJan 6 2004 )

Taran - I'm glad that you enjoyed the massage!

Friendly - Congratulations - getting through the last couple of weeks took a lot of willpower.

I went shopping with a friend today - only spent $20 so I didnpt break my budget but it was good to just be with somebody who cares.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:19:34 TueJan 6 2004 )

Great Job Friendly!

After a very rough weekend, I am back to just being happy to be alive! Feels nice. Calm. Almost, dare I say, peaceful.

Mel

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:44:49 TueJan 6 2004 )

Someone who I barely even know went out of their way to comment that lately I seem more "upbeat" and "present". Usally this kind of thing makes me feel uncomfortable. It still does, but it also kind of feels good. More than kind of.:biggrin:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:30:03 TueJan 6 2004 )

Just got back from a meeting with the police. They say there's reason to believe my ex has crossed the lines and could qualify as a stalker. I know some of you won't like that I went to the cops. I've not made a decision to prosecute but I just need validation of my feelings. Kind of like we here constantly from the f/f community. I admit it feels good not to have someone automatically assume everything is my fault even when they hear the dreaded NPD.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:05:43 WedJan 7 2004 )

Riches, I think that it is a great step to take to go to the police and to get validation of your feelings. I know how hard that would be for you to do.

Today I started repairing the holes in the walls that my son has made since June - I repaired them all in May for a birthday bash so the ones I'm currently working on have been made since then. There are about 20 and some are huge - I used a kilo and a half (3 and a half pounds) of dry plaster today but I'm more than half way through.

I'm being optimistic that there will be no more!! (He now has a punching bag in the garage!)

  
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