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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:23:03 SatJan 31 2004 )

Good to hear everybody's news - keep writing Hestia - it's good that you're so discilined at it.

The job that my son was so excited at getting turned out to be dreadful - illegal conditions and then he had to really hassle to get them to pay him. But the policeman who has been involved with my son (over the assault on him and, a couple of years ago, when he was doing crazy things) made a phone call to the manager of the local supermarket and got my son a job after-school. My son has been trying to get a job there for ages but never even got an interview (the place gets lots of applications from kids). His smile when he came out from the interview was a joy to see. And it's fantastic that the police will take an interest and do something positive for a teenager who has problems.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:29:25 SatJan 31 2004 )

And another positive for today. The last week has been a bit up and down with my eldest son - a couple of rages resulting in a broken window and more holes in the walls. But he has been calming down again.

Tonight I dropped him round to his friend's for a sleepover. As I was leaving I held my arms out for a hug. He gave me a kiss and put his arms around me and there was a bit more pressure in the hug than ever before. This was in full view of his friend and her parents. :biggrin:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:24:55 SatJan 31 2004 )

I agree its nice the police are taking a positive interest. Wish that kind thing happened in the US. Maybe someday

My therapist told me this week that I've already stayed with my healing work longer then he expected. He said most people with my dx bolt sooner rather then later. Its not been easy but I'm glad I've stayed with it.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:32:20 SunFeb 1 2004 )

Congrats to your son, Balbrenny

I spent another day with my snow attempting to learn how to snowboard. He's catching on but I seem to be getting too old for this. The biggest positive I can add is that I'm still able to walk.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 09:28:50 SunFeb 1 2004 )

It may not seem like to those with normal hours but I'm sleeping a lot better since going on zoloft. Last night I had this very powerful dream about Father where he was alive and I felt as though I could touch him. I cannot recall ever having had such a clear vision of him or the feeling that I could touch him. For the first time he seemed real. It was great. I hated for this dream to end.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:40:09 SunFeb 1 2004 )

Friendly, keep going - it will be worth it .
Weiss, should we be booking crutches?
Hewho, I think that it is great about the dream. Sometimes I wake up and go back to sleep and try to continue the dream because I want to stay in touch with my mum and dad.

I've had a good day just spending time with my boys. We watched a movie and just spent time together.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:45:52 SunFeb 1 2004 )

Well, I was finally able to forget about my worries and enjoy playing tennis today, my favorite sport. Also enjoyed watching Federer beat Safin in the Australian Open. I would encourage everyone to try and get exercise whenever they can - it just makes a lot of things easier.

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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:26:52 SunFeb 1 2004 )

I'll do the exercise thing AFTER the Super Bowl. Although we all know the Chiefs should be in the big game and its a fraud there not.

I got back to getting hugs to start my day this morning. I'm starting to get ready for the big move. There's some anxiety but I'm ready.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:49:28 SunFeb 1 2004 )

The only good thing about the superbowl is that the new Survivor starts right after it. Sorry, not a fan of the NFL. Canadian girl, don't you know...

My positive is that my baby boys come home today. Lord I wish I didn't miss them so much when they are with their daddy. I guess that will improve over time.

I'm at work today and everything is going very smoothly (system upgrades - if you know anything about computers, upgrades never go smoothly). So I guess I have two positives!

Mel

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:34:13 MonFeb 2 2004 )

Good work, friendly. Stay with the healing work. Weiss, I am jealous-- I've been wanting to learn to snowboard-- but I probably shouldn't be, since I'm probably too old for it too. Better stick to my favorite winter sport, reading by the fire. Hewho, your dream sound like it was beautiful. I'm so glad you're sleeping. Matt, keep taking good care of yourself. I was getting a little worried that you were working TOO hard on your healing-- your psyche needs rest sometimes, too! :smile: Taran, I hope the move goes well. I know you're anxious, but I hope you're excited too. Mel and Linda, nothing like spending time with those boys! My little ones home from dad's, and it makes my heart glad.

My positive is that recently three excellent resources have entered my life to help me grow spiritually. One was a gift from my therapist, a little pamphlet called "Steps to Inner Peace." It's by the Peace Pilgrim, if any of you remember her. About relinguishing negative feelings, she writes: "Now someone could do the meanest thing to me and I would feel deep compassion for this out-of-harmony person, this psychologically sick person who is capable of doing mean things. I certainly would not hurt myself by a wrong reaction of bitterness or anger. You have complete control of whether or not you will be hurt psychologically, and any time you want to, you can stop hurting yourself." Well, those of us raised in abusive families take a while to learn that we have that control, because of course as children we didn't have it. But as an adult, now I do. So my positive for today is that I'm going to try to stop hurting myself with bitterness and anger. Fortunately, Peace Pilgrim says it's ok to do this a little bit at a time until it becomes a habit, which is where the other resources come in!!! (Wouldn't it be great if the only labels were "in harmony" and "not in harmony yet." Course most of us would be in the latter category, but working toward the former makes a huge difference!!!) Sorry so long. Peace be with you, everyone. Hes

  
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