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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:06:34 SatFeb 14 2004 )

Happy Valentine's Day!

Did you know that there were actually 3 St Valentines in the space of about 30 years and that 2 of them are buried by the Via Appia in Rome? - Nobody knows for sure which one the day was named after.

After that piece of useless info I'll get onto other stuff. Actually, I used to have a job researching and writing articles about the origins of customs so my head is full of useless stuff like that.

Yesterday I bought a Valentines card, wrote 'U r my luv' and drew a heart with my eldest son's name on it and left it in our letter box. He doesn't know who it's from and thinks that a girl from school sent it. The huge smile on his face when he opened it was worth a million bucks to me after the last week.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:31:55 SatFeb 14 2004 )

I was able to cry today and not become depressed, so there's some progress being made with getting through to my feelings. It wasn't that deep crying, but it still felt pretty moving. I'm encouraged :smile:

I also read my little Vaknin parody to my sister and Mom, in the most grand and serious-sounding voice... they both thought it was hilarious and told me how great and admirable my writing is. It's about time someone noticed. :evilking:

Wish there was something I could say about Valentine's Day. But I don't have a Valentine. :fuming:
Still, there's my Mom and my sister to get cards for. And I always have my cat Loki. His love for me is like a sine curve... at breakfast, lunch, and dinnertimes its high, but at the other times... merowwwwww!

Well, Happy V-Day to all of you,

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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 05:00:16 SatFeb 14 2004 )

My youngest daughter and I have made a tradition to go on a "date" for Valentine. She's gettting old enough that soon I fear I'll be replaced for the real thing. :ohwell: That makes the time we have together even that much more special. This has been an exhausting period for us all, and I'm grateful I still have a family. I'd better go before I get too sentimental.

Happy V-Day


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:47:38 SatFeb 14 2004 )

Happy Valentine's Day, I guess :ohwell:

As I mentioned to some I hope its not a sign of anything bad that Valentine's Day follows Friday the 13th.

I have my hockey date and that's better than what I've done for Valentine's day in a long, long time.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:14:43 SatFeb 14 2004 )

I'm enjoying a snow day today, our first this year in my part of the south. I was supposed to work today, but my boss agreed that the roads are a bit too dangerous for pulling our work trailer around. It's bad enough when the roads are ok. I can't help but feel like a kid who just found out school was going to be closed for the day. :gloat:

Think I'll use this day to get out and get some things done around town that I've been meaning to do but never found the time. I'm going to toss around a few snowballs too, just for the kid in me. :mischief:

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:30:26 SatFeb 14 2004 )

Dante I definitely relate to the feeling of being excited about school or work being closed. Have fun and throw a few snowballs for me. :smile:

This is a work day for me as I'm going to spend most of the day packing and getting ready for the big move to my apartment. Its exciting but kind of scary so I admit I'm stallling just a bit by checking around the forums.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:22:49 SatFeb 14 2004 )

My family has spent the past week passing around a very nasty cold. Today is the first day where I think more of us are out of bed than in it. So I'll get physical health as a positive.

Happy Valentine's Day !

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:49:14 SunFeb 15 2004 )

I had a reasonably peaceful day today, although too hot - over 100F. But after the last week, having a day where nobody screamed at somebody else was very enjoyable,

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:33:33 SunFeb 15 2004 )

Well, I went to lunch for Valentine's day, then to Barnes and Noble for my Godiva hot chocolate, then ran some errands and realized the the little sniffles I had were making me feel awful! I drove the hour back to my small town to discover I had a low grade fever! I felt so miserable, snarly, and gross that I caught myself thinking, "Thank God I don't have a Valentine or any big plans; that would've made getting sick a real bummer. As it is, my son is with his dad this weekend so all I have to do is lay around in my robe drinking hot tea and watching television." It made me realize how artificial Valentine's Day really is. Who would've guessed I'd end up happy to be alone on Valentine's Day? (Green snot will do that for you!)

Also, my brother called me and talked for 35 minutes about his baby son. He even went into how long his middle finger is, and I was so good, I resisted the urge to say, "Yeah, that'll come in handy when he's a teenager and uses it to flip you off!" We also talked about my son. I told him I felt jealous that he could have more children, and he tried to talk me out of it. I said, "Hey, it's just a feeling, don't worry about it. Siblings are supposed to be jealous of each other some of the time." And he said the sweetest thing, he said, "Yeah, but your little boy is so cool he's worth a whole house full of kids!" I told him that the jealousy was just a little thing, and the main thing I was feeling was a lot of love for him and his wife and their son, and excitement about meeting my nephew and getting to see them, and how cool it was to talk with my brother about our kids. He was really touched. I was really touched. It was a moment!:loveya:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:15:27 SunFeb 15 2004 )

You displayed amazing restraint in not mentioning how that middle finger might one day be very useful.

Valentine's Day is really meanigless to me. I guess the positive i can is that I don't really know how to love so I don't know what I'm missing.

  
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