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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:57:38 SunFeb 29 2004 )

My baby boys come home again today. I had a pretty good weekend and did accomplish a few things. Had a nice evening out with friends last night so overall not too shabby.

Congratulations Jimmie. Do you only celebrate every four years - that doesn't seem fair to the rest of the hubbies who have to buy cards every year. Tee Hee.

Linda I'm so glad your son is moving forward positively. There will always be setbacks, but you seem to be handling them quite well.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:46:51 SunFeb 29 2004 )

I'd just like to remind everyone that there are certain people who should be exceptions to the six-minute rule on posting :ego:

Life continues quietly for me though, empty but at least quiet. It's starting to worry me that nothing is overtly wrong with me or my life. But I'm sure that something will present itself before long. This time I will be more ready, hopefully.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:40:40 MonMar 1 2004 )

Hey all. Probably not been six minutes but I'll give it a whirl!

I tried to take care of myself by just playing yesterday and hanging out today other than cleaning the bird's cage and doing some laundry. I talked to friends on the phone, too, and hung out here probably way more than I should have. Thanks to all of you for your support. Hugs to everyone except those who don't want to be hugged!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:45:42 MonMar 1 2004 )

I can't believe it's March 1. My flu became a sinus infection which is now lodged in my ears-- ouch! In any case, my positive today is this community which has tolerated me as I wigged out, listened to me vent, watched me struggle, and always been ready with a word of support. Tomorrow I will walk into marriage counseling and try to maintain an open heart, an open mind, and a spirit of love. I will ask my husband for a divorce for the third time. And then, no matter how he answers, I suspect I will be calling my lawyer that afternoon. My gut tells me this is the only way I can stay healthy and keep my son healthy. I will also pray that my husband's heart will become open to love, so that he can begin to love himself. I hope I have not decided so rigidly what will happen tomorrow that the Spirit has no room to move. But I also think I have discerned long enough to know that God does not want me to stay in this relationship which has been so destructive to us both for so long. Blessings, everyone. Hes

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:42:56 MonMar 1 2004 )


My positive is that my baby boys came home from a very busy weekend with their daddy and we did not have the usual bed time argument. It wasn't a piece of cake, but I stayed much calmer than usual and they co-operated better than usual. Amazing how that happens. Hmmm, I wonder what I learned?

Have a great day.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:19:01 TueMar 2 2004 )

My son continues to grow - there is much less abuse to his younger brother. He still expects him to do things immediately but now says "Get off the computer NOW!!!" rather than "Get off the f**king computer, you little s**thead. I f**king hate you. I hope you die a painful death" leading to his brother running to his room in tears. This was how he was talking to his brother two weeks ago.

So I'm going to count this as a positive and hope that the eldest son learns more tolerance.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:32:25 TueMar 2 2004 )

I was playing this game on my Gamecube today, Turok Evolution, in which you walk around and hunt dinosaurs from the prehistoric ages. The music in the game is very creepy and usually makes me very paranoid when I play it. Now, after I got home from school I had been playing the game in my basement for about 30 minutes when I heard some strange footsteps from upstairs. I froze immediately, paused the game, and eventually went upstairs wielding my trusty metal staff to drive out intruders. After about 5 minutes I had checked everywhere in the house and apparently no one was there. So I went back downstairs, turned on the game, and what do you know, a Raptor pads into view from around a cliff. :fuming: Not only did it pad into view, it proceeded to kill me then once and for all. :bawling:

The moral is that it's not easy being a dinosaur hunter. Oh.............. the important things in life...

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:14:06 TueMar 2 2004 )

The best news I have is that although I still have fairly severe insomia at least its not coming along with constant disturbing dreams. Knock on wood.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:32:33 ThuMar 4 2004 )

I'm frustrated because I was playing brilliant tennis until I ripped my back muscle trying a kick serve... it makes me realize just how much I rely on every muscle in my body, because now I can barely walk. Suckitude. I guess I'll be thankful when it recovers.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:30:14 ThuMar 4 2004 )

Matt, sorry about your back, but thank you-- "suckitude" is a fabulous word! TC, hang in there. Linda, definately sounds like progress to me.

I am feeling like a big "L" loser for not having already called my lawyer BUT... taking this time did help me remember the reason I became positive my husband was still playing games AND I can still move in that direction with copying financial data, setting up an appointment, etc. I never agreed not to move in the direction of filing. So I'm trying to turn this negative into a positive.

Finally, I think I am coming out of my grief funk a little bit. I'm sure I'll pop back under after I file, but I think the grief of making the decision is subsiding a bit. I still feel very sad, but am less paralyzed-- My house is actually starting to look clean again. Being able to be outside with my son the past two afternoons helped a lot.

  
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