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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:02:12 SunNov 2 2003 )

Congratulations friendly. That is wonderful news. Keep on keeping on. I can only imagine the challenge.

Wow, Drac. Good for you. Sounds like you dispelled all sorts of misconceptions with good grace.

I look forward to Sundays. My son comes over. We watch DVD's that we order from Netflix which we choose together. I prepare Sunday dinner. He stays the night and heads off to work early Monday morning.

The time we spend together is always companionable. He's a quiet, introverted darlin'. Watching movies together is an excellent way for us to spend time together.

The 3rd Matrix movie is coming out this week. I'll make a date with him to see it next week. We can't wait to see it!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:58:52 SunNov 2 2003 )

I can't wait to see the picture of a narcissist. This should be good. :biggrin:

Last night I actually said I love you to my friend, and meant it from my heart. I need to let this sink in and I may post in the other forum later. I don't know that the love is THE love, but she is someone I care about and I don't say I love you to just anyone.:puppylove:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:18:25 MonNov 3 2003 )

Great news, Taran. There are many types of love but meaning it from your heart is the best thing!

Today I had a business meeting but the other person cancelled so I have some spare time. I should do other work but I've decided to sit on my veranda and watch the birds in the trees and do some reading. I'm feeling good about pampering myself.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:08:29 MonNov 3 2003 )

I've never ever thought I'd do this but I picked up a book of poems and stuff by Rumi and I've been reading it in small pieces over the last week. I'm not into mystic talk or poetry but this guy is speaking to me. Its kind of hit and miss, but at least a part is clicking. Kind of odd that someone who lived so long ago is talking so directly to where I am today. I like it.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:24:10 MonNov 3 2003 )

Today my eldest son tried to drive my car. Its a manual and he got frustrated at the clutch, accelerator etc and tried to jam it into 1st gear.

Somehow or other he got it stuck in 2nd and I mean stuck. The gear box is wrecked. :bawling: I had to miss a work meeting this evening as I had no car and it is going to cost half of the money I have saved to get it
fixed.

The good thing was that I focused on how he must have been feeling about this - I did not get angry, blame him or say anything negative. Just drove the car to the garage. I told him that I understood how hard it is to drive a manual and that he needs to treat gears gently, etc. After reading all the posts here I am sure that he would be feeling shame over what had happened.

He has not apologised but he did thank me for being so understanding. When feelings have cooled for both of us, I'll talk to him further but for the moment I'm feeling glad that we got through a situation that had the potential to turn into a rage situation without that happening.

When he wrecks things through frustration and rage, I just try to remember what a friend has asked me: 'Would you rather have your car/house/phone/etc. or your son? Those things are replaceable but your son is not.'

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:10:49 MonNov 3 2003 )

Sorry to hear about the car, Balbrenny. Its great that you've managed to avoid feelings of rage. I know from unfortunate prior experience that situations like this with a car can turn rather heated. :rage:

I'm feeling really good right now because I was a member of the nominating committee for the Quaker Meeting I belong to and we finished our work in less than a month without any fights. I did this a few years ago in another Meeting and it almost tore the place apart with all the egos that were involved. It was really great experience to work with people who were most concerned about working together in a peaceful manner. It gave me some renewed faith in the spirit.



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You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self . .. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime , you are the only one you will never lose.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:33:11 MonNov 3 2003 )

Last night I watched a game with a bunch of friends who spent the entire time drinking beer and spraying cuse words. I just sipped on my soda and tried to ignore them. It feels good not to have make a fool of myself in order to get attention and pretend I'm having a good time.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:48:53 MonNov 3 2003 )

So much good news and positive things going on! Too bad about the car Linda, dang!

I had a terrific day yesterday. My son and I watched Adaptation and Chicago. He watched Chicago while on my computer, watching the movie with one eye. We ate turkey soup I made earlier in the week. Later I prepared pre-stuffed pork chops. He also brought me some boards he cut from sDoo doo at work for shelving for a shelf frame I scavanged.

He's working on joining the Army. I will miss him terribily. Through my tears, I do everything I can to support his decision. It is time for him to spread his wings. I'm very excited for him and the next step in his life.

I'm ready to face the first day at the new job. I slept mostly okay. Woke up entirely too early. Temping is hard. Always on the learning curve. I'm prepared with a positive attitude and ready to read the interactions I have with all of the new people today. I will ask questions ... albiet not too many. I will try to work things out on my own and seek help when I get stuck.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:59:42 MonNov 3 2003 )

I'm taking a "vacation" day today to go on a field trip with my youngest. We are visiting the Denver Museum of Natural History. The school was looking for a parent to help out and I needed a day to relax and maybe remind myself of the innocence of youth. It should be fun.

Good luck on the job Life! :cookiemonster:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:33:24 MonNov 3 2003 )

weiss a day at the museum sounds pretty good to me.

I just got a phone call from a friend who has been promising to cut tree limbs for me ever since last summer. I've tried not to push because I know he's doing me a favor at a reduced price. Lets just say the tension was growing despite his generosity. He says he'll be over this afternoon. I literally felt my body relax and told him the wait was no problem. A small white lie perhaps but I still have a friend and thats what counts.

  
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