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    Re: I need help from ff/s and NPD'rs alike please..urgent ( 00:16:18 FriMar 18 2005 )
    I agree with Thump. You've done what you could and may have to accept that he may not want to or be able to respond now or ever. Of course it is also possible that he may not have gotten it or read it yet too. My friends emails sometime get zapped by my junk filters and I imagine I've missed a few emails that way myself and often I just need a while to think about what I want to say before I reply. Regardless, concentrating on things you like to do and healing yourself while trying not to think about it until and unless you get a reply is good advice IMO. I think that attitude is living in the moment and not the future or the past as suggested by AH. Best Wishes

      
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    Re: I need help from ff/s and NPD'rs alike please..urgent ( 18:07:24 FriMar 18 2005 )
    10 days may seem like a long period to you, but I think its a very short window in terms of expecting a reply to a communication of this nature. If I received something like this from someone I might be tempted to reply right away, but I actually have come to know myself on a deep enough level that I actually hope I'd allow some time to pass before responding.

    It may be your friend never expected or wanted any kind of a reply from you. I could picture myself in this kind of mind sight very easily at various stages of my life. If that is the case its possible he hasn't even read the message. I suspect the thought of hearing from you could be very terrifying to him. If he has read the message it could be more than he is prepared to do at this moment to offer any reply. It could be weeks, months or never before he finds the courage and the words to reply.

    I hope you wrote this from a perspective of what you needed to say without any expectations from him whatsoever. If so I believe one day you'll be able to find peace within yourself whether you ever hear from him again or not. There is great truth in the perspective we can only find true happiness from within ourselves and we should let go of our expectations of others. I wish you the best in coming to this place of peace within yourself.

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