"Have faith that people do their best. I don't know anyone who would eat with pigs out of a trough in a muddy barnyard if he knew that a well-prepared meal was on the table in a clean house - do you?" Greg Baer

"The Secret in healing Narcissism is not to heal it at all, but to listen to it. Narcissism is a signal that the soul is not being loved sufficiently. The greater the Narcissism, the less love being given." ~ Thomas Moore, 'Care of the Soul'.

Q. Is it really possible to heal NPD?

A. Anything is possible. You do not have to be a negative statistic on a probablity curve of people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Heal NPD :: Family and Friends :: The latest Who's Online | Stats | Memberlist | Chatroom | Search | Lost Password | Shout Box " ShoutMix chat widget Healing becomes possible when all parties in a relationship come to see each other as co-creators of the relationship rather then attacker, and victim.   Can't start a new thread. (Host Only) Can't start a new poll. (Host Only) Can't add a reply. (Host Only) Can't edit your posts.(Everyone Registered) Register :: Log In :: Steering Committee The time is now 17:45:52 Wed Jun 19 2013 Welcome, Register :: Log In   Friends of Narcissus active in this forum: Friends of Narcissus active in this thread: Beloved and cherished GUEST(s) of Narcissus 2 human beings online in the last 15 minutes - 0 Friend(s) of Narcissus, 0 covert NPDers and 2 Beloved and cherished GUEST(s) of Narcissus. (Most ever was 57 at 01:37:31 Fri Sep 11 2009) Pages: [ 1 ] Quick-JumpWelcomeHOPEOpen TopicAsk a NarcissistResourcesOpen Topic: Members OnlyRecovery Room IITender Emotions [ < ] [ > ] Little_by_Little Offline 89 posts Mood Now: Post Mood: Reply The latest ( 20:09:52 SatMar 19 2005 ) Options Reply Quote Report To Mod Last Posts Ignore User Global Ignore Whisper I learned this week my husband took out a second mortage on our log house to loan his business money. I'm miffed at how he did this without my knowledge because the house is in both our names and I would have assumed I would've been asked to sign loan papers. Evidently this is not the case. To make a twisted story short I am now aware of this loan because it is teetering on default. I learned of this only because the bank called our home repeatedly this week and I finally got them to leave a message. Mind you this is the house I thought we would be moved into some time ago and has instead been eating away at all our financial resources. His Father is the only thing that has prevented us from already loosing this home. I'm not at all sure how many times he'll be willing to bail us out of financial ruin. I've not heard a word directly from my husband since I last posted here. Our kids tell me he's been around a couple of times while I was gone and I've seen evidence this is true because things of his are missing. Right now he's avoiding me like a coward and I'm very close to going from being depressed to fuming with rage. I spent most of this week looking for work and attempting to find a way to finance this divorce without calling on my inlaws. I knew our money situation was not good but I trusted him enough to believe he wouldn't allow things to get this out of hand. Looks like the jokes on me. Mood: Mood Now: ( Loser ) Post Mood: ( Loser ) TcBrown Offline 2954 posts Cyber Healing PhD Eat your heart out Pacific Western Mood Now: Post Mood: Reply Re: The latest ( 17:01:57 SunMar 20 2005 ) Options Reply Quote Report To Mod Last Posts Ignore User Global Ignore Whisper Little, I'm sorry things are at such a crazy level in your relationship. It sounds as though your husband is currently attempting to resolve some very adult level problems through some childish reactions. Unfortunatley this is a common problem seen among NPDers. Once we realize that we are in over our heads we often tend not to have any idea how to resolve problems without making them worse. I have no idea what's happening with his finances but it sounds as though he's been doing some juggling trying to cover business loses without being honest with you, or very likely with himself along the way. I'm no master at handling money so I know better then to pass judgment other then say I appreciate what a difficult situation this puts you in. It sounds as though you're reacting as well as can be expected and its probably good you are moving forward with the divorce. I wish you the best in making sense of this and finding peace in your life Later Tony --- Instead of quoting the Budda, be the Budda, be "the awakened one," which is what the word budda means. Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of Now"     Mood: Mood Now: ( Bruised ) Post Mood: ( Scanned ) free_of_fem Offline 151 posts Mood Now: Post Mood: Reply Re: The latest ( 18:53:25 SunMar 20 2005 ) Options Reply Quote Report To Mod Last Posts Ignore User Global Ignore Whisper God knows that I've had more than my share of living with someone whose financial dealings are disasterous. I sometimes feel I could have overlooked almost all of my ex's other faults if he would have been capable of being honest in his money dealings. That's probably because when he started playing with money and I found out we had much less then I believed we did it left me feeling insecure, and for a very good reason IMP. I agree its best to proceed with the divorce and if you are able to offer support from a distance this is a bonus that you should regard as a gift, not an expectation. Mood: Mood Now: ( Dazzled ) Post Mood: ( Optimistic ) Pages: [ 1 ] Quick-JumpWelcomeHOPEOpen TopicAsk a NarcissistResourcesOpen Topic: Members OnlyRecovery Room IITender Emotions [ < ] [ > ] BbRing CORRTJ   Can't start a new thread. (Host Only) Can't start a new poll. (Host Only) Can't add a reply. (Host Only) Can't edit your posts.(Everyone Registered)Total Friends of Narcissus: 3954 Can't start a new thread. (Host Only) Can't start a new poll. (Host Only) Can't add a reply. 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