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siblygirl  I'm Asleep  1000147 posts  Mood Now:  
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Dear Annie: I've been friends with a co-worker for three years. Nancy and I always had lunch together and talked. One day, I noticed she was cold toward me. I tried to talk to her, but she refused to listen and ignored me when we saw each other. Finally, I wrote her a note asking what the problem was. I told her I had no idea why she was upset and apologized for anything I may have said or done.
She wrote back, "I'd rather not talk about it." I want to know why she is angry with me so I can straighten it out or at least defend myself. It's been six months, and nothing has changed. I have not spoken to anyone at work about the rift, although I'm sure they've noticed that Nancy and I are avoiding each other. Annie, once I make friends, it's for life. What should I do? -- Bewildered in Los Angeles Dear L.A.: It's possible Nancy saw something, or a co-worker told her something, that hurt her so badly she cannot forgive you. Go to her in person. Say, "I don't know what I did to make you so angry, but I miss you and want to make things right. Please give me another chance." Invite her to lunch so you can hash it out. If it doesn't work, at least you will know you gave it your best shot.
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Peggy_Garfunkel  I'm Asleep 4510 posts   Mood Now: 
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Hey, this sounds so much like the Nancy and Marsha situation that Emily had posted about awhile back. I really hate silent treatments!!
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valjean I'm Asleep 299 posts   Mood Now: 
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When someone cuts off communications with you without telling you why, besides being very rude, it shows a total lack of respect and says that they never really valued your friendship much in the first place.
If it is done because of hearsay, something they heard from a third party, well, that shows a whole lot of stupidity. |
paulgro  I'm Asleep 686 posts    Mood Now: 
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I have the same problem with someone on line. I've tried the other person won't reply so I said the hell with it. It's been over a year and life is too short to worry about someone that won't talk to me…
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Hipster I'm Asleep 2438 posts 
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Yeah, I never understood why people do stuff like that.
 I always like to work things out. If I ever feel slighted by anyone, I always give that person the benefit of the doubt - and I also, as gently as possible, explain how I feel slighted. That way, we have a chance to work things out so that we can see eye-to-eye on things. Of course, this does go both ways, though. If this person gets defensive and accuses me of fault-finding or being overly-sensitive - then it shows that this person doesn't really care about my feeling. I mean, I wouldn't yell at them. I would word it something like this: "listen, I understand that you maybe didn't mean to offend me - but I couldn't help but feel offended when you *insert offensive act here*". Anyway, you get the idea.
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april_wino1  I'm Asleep 3245 posts  Mood Now: 
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I would never do anything like that - and neither would Sarah. Even though I do tend to have a bad temper - I'm very quick to forgive and work things out.
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Emily_Garfunkel I'm Asleep 6565 posts  Mood Now:
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Well, Marsha is no longer avoiding Nancy, but they did decide to pretty much part ways - but, yeah, this situation is very similar.
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Oowatanite I'm Asleep 2965 posts  
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yrah, i never understood this whole silent treatment thing.
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retro_chica  I'm Asleep 5872 posts  Mood Now: 
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Actually, Marsha and I don't really get along. At least Marsha did have the decency to tell Nancy what she (Nancy) did to offend her, though. It's kinda funny that the cold-shoulder worker in this article is named Nancy - or at least the name that was used for her - since she's more like Marsha.
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hipgurl I'm Asleep 1664 posts 
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Yes, this 'Nancy' is such a moron.
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Swan_Song I'm Asleep 1727 posts  Mood Now: 
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I agree 100% with valjean!!
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