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siblygirl  I'm Asleep  1000147 posts  Mood Now:  
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Dear Amy: My husband and I married a bit later in life after I had established my career. I chose to keep my name. Now that we are going to have our first child we are trying to figure out what to do with the baby's name. We had originally planned on giving our son my husband's name, but many women who have kept their names have shared with me that this becomes confusing when the child enters school. Either people assume that the mother is divorced from the father or they call the mom Mrs. Husband's Name. I don't mind, but it isn't my name.
We considered hyphenating our names, but that would make the last name very long. I'm worried that it will be confusing to our child or maybe make him think I am not "Mom enough" because I don't share his name. Can you offer any advice on this and ask your readers to respond? Name Recognition Dear Name: As someone who has kept my name and raised a daughter with a different last name, I can tell you that these days it seems rare enough to find a nuclear family who all share a surname -- though it does still seem to happen on television sitcoms. My experience is that schools cope well with this by sending mail to "The Parents Of . . . " Teachers are smart, literate and able to juggle many opposing ideas. They also might not share a surname with their own children. No matter what the rest of the world calls you, you'll still be "Mom" to your child. Let's see what other readers think.
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silver_linings I'm Asleep 1745 posts    Mood Now: 
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About hyphenating names - that would depend on how long the names are.
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paulgro  I'm Asleep 686 posts    Mood Now: 
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The child usually gets the fathers name unless the mother is single. Put two last names together and you could have a name longer then the alphabet…
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Oowatanite I'm Asleep 2965 posts  
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i know what you mean, paul.
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Peggy_Garfunkel  I'm Asleep 4510 posts  Mood Now: 
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I can't argue with that.
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Cecelia_Garfunkel I'm Asleep 3421 posts  Mood Now: 
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Well, if both names are short enough, then that's okay.
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retro_chica  I'm Asleep 5872 posts  Mood Now: 
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That's true.
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Canada rules!
AprilWineChick  I'm Asleep 7847 posts  Mood Now: 
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Like Smith-Jones.
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TragicallyHipper  I'm Asleep 7322 posts  Mood Now: 
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Yeah, two of the most common last names.
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led_zep_head I'm Asleep 1610 posts  Mood Now: 
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Yeah, and very short.
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pyxi_styx I'm Asleep 3982 posts   Mood Now: 
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No, I think the baby should just have the husbands name.
Peace out. 
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