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LedZeppelinHarmony  I'm Hiding  1000302 posts    Mood Now:  
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Dear Miss Manners:
My husband and I received a "save the date" card today for a wedding for a cousin. Unfortunately, we were already asked to "save the date" for the same date! That wedding is for a close friend. Our question is whether we go to the wedding we were notified about first or if we should attend the latter invite, since it is family. Pre-inviting guests by asking them to save the date is a relatively new custom, not unrelated, Miss Manners suspects, to bargain airfares. And it happens that the rules concerning them are similar to airline rules, although we certainly hope the food will be better. A "save the date" card is merely a notice, rather like making a reservation for you, with no penalty for changing reservations before making a final commitment. No response is required, but when the actual invitation arrives, you must immediately accept or decline it, and then an acceptance is binding. You seem to have left yourselves free to choose, in which case, yes, family does generally take precedence over friends.
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rebeccaj65 I'm Asleep  73 posts  
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But if they'd rather go to the wedding of the good friend, they could always say they've already accepted the other invitation. I think a little white lie to spare feelings is OK.
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TragicallyHipper  I'm Asleep 7322 posts   Mood Now: 
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I have to agree, Rebecca!
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AprilWineChick  I'm Asleep 7847 posts  Mood Now: 
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I can imagine that'd be a very tough situation to be in.
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TragicallyHipFan I'm Asleep 403 posts  
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yeah, i hope to never be in a situation like that.
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SarahJane I'm Asleep 1825 posts  Mood Now: 
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Decisions, decisions, eh?
 ~ Sarah Jane
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TragicallyHipper I'm Asleep 7322 posts Mood Now:
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Yeah, that'd be a very tough decision to make.
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CanuckYank I'm Asleep 1930 posts   Mood Now:
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Yeah, tell me about it!
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AprilWineChick I'm Asleep 7847 posts Mood Now:
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Yeah, I wouldn't want to be there.
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april_wino1  I'm Asleep 3245 posts  Mood Now: 
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Be where?
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tragicallyhip_babe I'm Asleep 2815 posts  
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Well, just pick the one you're closest to.
Keep Hipping! 
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debbey  I'm Asleep 4646 posts   Mood Now: 
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I don't agree with Miss Manners and this is the first time I have heard 'Save The Date'… You learn something new all the time
What I don't agree with is, I think you should respond if you have committed or are thinking of committing to the same date… For example, weddings If you are trying to figure out a day (when) to have your wedding and there are certain people you would like to attend… in my opinion this is like 'fielding' people to see if they are available… it just helps to pick a day when everyone can be in attendance… What do you think?  Cheers! 
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CanuckYank I'm Asleep 1930 posts Mood Now:
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I think you have a good point, Debbey.
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debbey I'm Asleep 4646 posts Mood Now:
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Wow!! Fascinating!!
This has to be one of the most read topics in Miss Manners! It has been located on Page 3 for the last few years... and still manages to get 1,000's of Reads  Happy Sunday! Off to Church, I go! Cheers!
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