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SashasMum
10:26:43 Mon
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Just to let you know that Donna came out to see Sasha this morning and we had a really good chat about her seperation anxiety.

She agreed that it was probably all down to Sasha feeding of my stresses and anxieties that I have had recently e.g. hospitalized children, broken bones, ex husbands, funeral and illness etc. Apparently because I am pack leader, this has made Sasha anxious as to what is going to happen with the pack etc. Of course when I went away, when I came back I should have worked harder to reclaim my position as pack leader (which would have been Rob while I was away). Because I was then stressed and unwell, with Rob going away and the kids going to school - Sasha's pack order basically fell away. Add to that the fact that she panicked if I was coming back everytime I left the house and you can see why she was such a basket case!!

Anyway, the cure is - routine routine routine and a bit more routine! That was what I felt was right, but I had been advised other things that contradicted that. Basically once she realises the pack is back in business and that I aint going anywhere, then she will calm down and all the other problems will fall away with it.

I must admit that she has been a lot better over the last week, but today was the first morning of school - so she did get a little worried when we alll started to leave. Hopefully if we just stick to what we do, she will soon learn that all is well.

Of course the ironic side of this is that I knew all of this before Donna told me, although I admit I hadnt realised perhaps just how much the "pack order" had disintegrated for Sasha. I suppose the fact that I also lost confidence in my ability to be a good "Mum" to Sasha, because she was so upset, had a knock on effect in my confidence to know what was the best thing to do to help her.

Donna gave me that back in spades and I now know that it was nothing I had done wrong and that I was doing all the right things to get her back on track!!

It is probably going to take a couple of weeks to get her back to "normal" but at least I know that I am going the right way, so I can just keep plodding on with the routines, rather than panicking that I am making it worse and changing direction!

Fingers crossed for relaxed and happy Mum and baby soon!:smile:




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jacquie
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You sound alot better Karen. Glad Donna managed to restore your self confidence.
Nice to see you smile again:smile:



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That's good news Karen, it's always nice for someone to tell you you're doing the right thing, hopefully Sasha will soon be back to normal - if there is normal in a boxer's world :roundnround:



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First week of school runs and Sasha is doing fairly well. She hasn't been stressing when the kids leave the house and has just lain in her bed and watched me when I leave. Rob is even away just now and that doesnt seem to have bothered her (he is in Stornoway for a couple of days - Outer Hebridies)

I think the biggest piece of advice Donna gave me, that would be invaluable to anyone in this position is just CHILL! Obviously as Sasha was getting stressed, I was worrying and stressing about her and we were just feeding off each other.

Now she just comes up calmly and says hello when I come home and then does her normal sleep all day until the kids come home and play with her.

Oh happy days!:wave:



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Glad things are settling down for you all.
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Hi Karen

Glad to hear things are getting better with Sasha.

Like you said sometimes it just takes someone to confirm that you are doing the right thing.

You are very obviously Sashas favourite person in the whole wide world xxxxx



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We had a slight set-back this week and she is back to her gibbering self just now. I know its only a hiccup though and will keep plodding on - Rob went away on Tues to Stornoway for a night and hasnt made it back yet, so obviously things arent normal here again.

Got the guisers tonight so we are off out for a meal and will just take Sasha and leave her in the car so she doesnt get all stressed out with the doorbell.

I think it was just a case of two school mornings too many for Sasha, so hopefully she will continue to build up her confidence for next week.

Did you know that a dog only has about a half hour time understanding?? Apparently in most cases, most of the damage is done by a dog in the first half hour. Five minutes can seem like an hour and five hours can seem like half an hour - they really dont have time clock and understand the passing of time, although they do have a body clock for routines like meals and walks etc. Donna told me that - has anyone else heard of it? Kinda comforting when you know you have to be out for a couple of hours etc.



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Jakes_mum
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My lurcher would eat the house while i nipped down to the shop on the corner. I hit the point where i felt i could go out for a couple of hours as he would have already done the damage! Mind he always put himself out through the dog flap when i arrived home!!!
Glad to hear things are starting to settle down

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Wish they were settling down Liz!!

One step foward, three steps back!!

Will keep plodding on and hope that the steps forward soon start to out number the steps back!:smash6:



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Jakes_mum
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Im sure they will, it just feels like its going on forever. Heskey usually manages to have a couple of settled weeks followed by a trash the house week (hes been digging for australia in the settee this week!) Yep i could scream, but then he looks all hangdog with those big brown eyes and i have to forgive him (after a good telling off and being sent out of the room to think about his behaviour) Oh well at least life is never boring!

Keep your chin up - im sure it will get better and the forward steps will outnumber the backward ones.

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