TheWhiteStuff Community Centre :: Health and Problems :: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???
Who's Online :: Stats :: Memberlist :: Top Posters :: Search



Welcome, Register :: Log In Welcome to our newest member, Gypsysmom1980.
Users active in this forum:
Users active in this thread:

people online in the last 10 minutes - 0 members, 0 anon and 0 guests. (Most ever was 54 at 22:10:24 Wed Nov 21 2012)

Pages: [ 1 ]

[ Notify ][ Print ][ Send To Friend ] [ Watch ] [ < ] [ > ]

kerrigan
17:44:00 Wed
Nov 17 2004

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I know this is a difficult subject but I would like to ask everyone how they coped with having to accept thier boxer (or any pet) has to go to pet heaven? and hope they dealt with taking a pet to be euthanised.

This subject has been on my mind because i know Clyde is nearing his time,he is on constant pain medication and I feel he will become immune to pain killers, and I could`nt let him live in pain so when the time comes I will do what`s best for him not me, which brings me to my final question, I want to be with Clyde till the end i don`t want to leave him with the vet , my husband does`nt agree he thinks it would be too painful.
I just want to make sure Clyde goes in my arms and to know he is loved always, what do you think?
yvonne

  
kerrigan
17:45:57 Wed
Nov 17 2004

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Sorry it should read how they dealt with

  
SashasMum
22:23:24 Wed
Nov 17 2004

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I dont think touchy is the word, but it certainly is very sad when it comes time to say goodbye to your loved one.

I had to have my last boxer, Katie, put down when she was 13. It was a very hard decision to come to, and I still miss her to this day (in fact I have her ashes in a vase on my bedroom window sill!!). She was incontinent, epilipetic, deaf and suffered from senile demensia which was what finally took her. She was on "happy" pills for a long time, but her behaviour worsened again. Being an older dog she didnt want many walks, and I was going on the theory that if she was still eating her food, then she was still enjoying life! She had accidents most mornings and had very little control over her bladder which, looking back, must have been awful for her.

We took her to the vets because of her demensia and he told us that, although he could increase her medication, she had very little quality of life left and the pills weren't going to help her much longer. He told us to go away and think about it and see what we thought. It was a tough couple of days, but the clincher came when we took her out for a walk and she didnt leave my side and almost pined to get home. That night she weed all over the floor again and just slept in her bed the rest of the time so I began to feel that I was only keeping her alive for my sake. Plus she used to attach herself to my heels and I fell over her at least once a day which was becoming quite unsafe! We phoned the vet and booked to have her put down on the following Monday.

My children were 4 & 6 at the time and had obviously grown up with Katie and I was very worried as to how to deal with it all with them. I decided that honesty was the best approach and we basically spent the weekend saying goodbye to Katie. We took her to a lovely place near us called Fairy Glen for her last walk, and the children knew that was what we were doing. We took lots of photos of her ( I am filling up even now remembering it!!) and made sure she had as much fun as she could.

On the Monday morning the children said goodbye to her before they left for school and the vet came round early in the morning. I was very lucky in that he was prepared to come to the house as there was no way I was abandoning her or taking her to the vets for this. He gave her her first injection and she just fell asleep on my lap, very peaceful and then, when she was sound asleep, he adminstered the final dose. It was heartbreaking but I am glad I did it that way. She was taken away (I didnt watch that bit) and we had her cremated and still have her ashes. That morning I called the RAF Dog section and they came to collect her old food and bed etc.

I still cry about her now, and I felt guilty for ages that I had shortened her life, but I know she wasn't living a life at the end and it was just because I couldn't bear to part with her that was stopping me doing it. She was coming up to 13 which is a good age for a boxer, especially one with epilepsy and senile demensia, plus she had had breast cancer when she was 6!

I would say that if anyone is thinking about it, talk to your vet. Their job is to prevent the suffering of animals, not to put them down if they are just an inconvenience and I dont believe any vet will steer you wrong in that decision. Most of them are happy to come out to the house, although it may cost a little more. The sweetest thing with my vet was the bill - it read "sadly enthunasia of Katie" - it was deeply touching.

I dread the day I have to think about it with Sasha, but I hope I can make the decision quicker than I did with Katie and not keep her alive for my own reasons.

Karen :wave:

  
SashasMum
22:27:41 Wed
Nov 17 2004

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Am hoping this will attach a photo of Katie.

Karen :wave:

  
SashasMum
22:30:24 Wed
Nov 17 2004

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

That last one was Katie on her last walk with me. I realise now just how old she was!

Hopefully this should be a photo of her in her younger days!!

Karen :wave:

  
Polo123
13:46:47 Thu
Nov 18 2004

Offline
1601 posts
Mod


Mood Now: Loopy

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I'm reading this with tears streaming down my face:sad:

With our old dog, Daley, the heartbreaking decision was very much taken from us. He was 13 and had been slowly going downhill, when one night just after we'd gone to bed we heard him crying, which was very unusual. Hubby and I quickly ran downstairs where he was having some kind of seizure on the kitchen floor and foaming at the mouth. My eldest daughter and I sat holding him while my hubby phoned the vet. We took him there, but the decision was very simple, even though extremely painful, it was all over very quickly and very peacefully, just after midnight. Luckily our youngest daughter slept through it all, the worst thing was it was her birthday the next day and we dreaded telling her, but, like most kids, she took it very well (it was her 10th birthday). Fortunately my hubby was off that day so he went back to the vets to sort everything out, and also to tell my parents (Daley had been a pup from their dog Lassie, and they had been so alike in many ways) I don't think I could have coped with either of these.

Yvonne, I hope your time to make the decision doesn't come too soon, give Clyde a big hug from us and both of you take care.



---



My Photobucket
 
 
kerrigan
19:36:42 Thu
Nov 18 2004

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I am now crying too reading about Katie, Clyde is`nt quite 7yrs but his life as a pup was`nt what it should have been, he was fed whatever the family was eating, drank beer and had very little exercise and in the family`s own way they did care about him, they were only supposed to be looking after Clyde for a couple of weeks but ended up having him for 3yrs,his original owner(who paid a lot of money for him) never came back for him!
We have totally changed his way of life, he knows when his meals are , he knows he gets plenty of exercise and nobody could love him more than we do.

i hope Clyde lasts much longer than i think he might but when the time comes i will do what`s best for him and only him.

Clyde`s my first boxer and before we got him i was never interested in animals as pets,used to think people who ranted on about thier pets were pretty sad and lonely,I never thought i could feel so much love for an animal as I do my three.
thanks for all your thoughts yvonne

  
SashasMum
20:27:12 Thu
Nov 18 2004

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

At 7 Clyde is still a pup in boxer terms! Katie was a mad puppy until she was about 9 and then turned into a cranky old woman - nothing in between! I am sure that now Clyde is getting the right diet, exercise and love that he will have many happy years left in him yet. But you are right, when the time comes you have to put them first, not you.

Sorry, I didnt mean to make you all cry about Katie, although I still do, and did while I was typing that! I got all her old photos out and had a good weep - I cant believe it was over 6 years ago now. I have Sasha now, and although she will never replace Katie, she is just as special and I love her to bits.

Enjoy Clyde, you have plenty of time left together yet.

Karen :wave:

  
Katiesnowflake
01:22:22 Fri
Nov 19 2004

Offline
2242 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Dazzled

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

You will know, you always know and if you dont, your vet will guide you. We had to let three of ours go every year for 3 years. It happens when they are very close in age. Two from heart disease and one from Liver disease. It is heart breaking but if you can bring yourself to do it, please stay with your baby. Hold him gently but firmly and he will ease into ever lasting peace. It is the last thing you can ever do for them.
I too have their ashes in a display cabinet, each one has their own shelf. I was going to bury them when I had all three of them - together in life and together after it. However I could never bring myself to do it. They will stay there to be remembered and cherised forever.

  
AZBOXER
03:05:08 Fri
Nov 19 2004

Offline
99 posts
Boxer

Mood Now: Optimistic

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

We put our boxer Buster down when he was 12 years and 3 months, he had a splenic tumor and it was bleeding out. I'm very glad and grateful that we could help him go.

I also put my kitty Amanda down at 15 years. The next step with her was tube feeding and they didn't even know if she would survive that. I stayed with her which I had not done before and if I ever have to do it again I will have them in my arms.

I think the key is their quality of life or how much evasive procedures do you want to put them through if there is not much of a chance of saving them. When our Boxer Buster was diagnosed he was okay and the vet said he had about three months. She said go home and spoil him and love him and that's what we did until it was time.

  
suziekai
12:54:06 Wed
Nov 24 2004

Offline
posts
Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Hi last Friday i had to take my white boy Kai to the vets to be put to sleep. I think the vets would have rather i didnt go in but this was the last thing i could do for my baby and i felt that the last thing he should be was frightened because he was with strangers and not his mum. He had cancer and we had been told he had 6 months at the most and up until 2 weeks before he died the vets had been very pleased with how he was doing but he stopped eating had no energy and just wasnt himself at all. He looked so tired and miserable and nothing could cheer my normally happy bouncing boy up. So last week after crying constantly i knew he wasnt going to improve and it wasnt fair to let him suffer any longer and even though its the hardest thing i have ever had to do he passed so quickly and i am so glad i was with him. Before i always said i couldnt be there when it happened but you have to think of what your boy would want. Kais ashes got delivered an hour ago and i was sobbing and came onto the computer to read what other people in my position do to get over this. I saw what you had written and i know what you are going through and hopefully knowing that it is very quick will help you to get through this horrible time. Kai had only just turned 8 and it just seems so unfair that this would happen to him but at least he was totally loved and completely idolised by me and i will always want and miss my baby boy. suzie and kai

  
tattoo_howie
14:15:19 Wed
Nov 24 2004

Offline
posts
Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

please accept deepest condolences it pains me very much to here of kais passing try to remember the good times...i could`nt feel much worse if it was ivory my dog

  
SashasMum
16:30:32 Wed
Nov 24 2004

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Dear Suzie

I am so so sorry to hear about Kai. It's the hardest thing to do, but you are right in knowing that you have to make the decision when it's best for them not us.

I still remember Katie daily, but it doesnt hurt as much as it did. I say hello to her everytime I lift her jar to dust undernearth! One day soon you will be able to remember all the happy times and that'll help with the pain of loss.

Karen :sad:

  
kerrigan
20:18:50 Sun
Dec 5 2004

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Im so sorry about Kai, you must be devastated and you have been so thoughtful to tell us about him, I hope I am as brave as you when Clyde`s (or any of mine) time comes, he`s doing okay but still in pain which is being controlled just now with painkillers.
thanks everyone for your replies ,
Suzi could you post a picture of Kai please yvonne

  
Dawn01
22:05:37 Wed
Dec 8 2004

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Sad

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Suzie you are such a brave person i dont know if i would have the strenth in easter of this year my mum had to take one of my dogs to be put t sleep for the same reason he just couldnt keep fighting it
i was in work at the time and i was so upset when i found out but the first thing i asked was if someone was with him

I know that it will be so hard turning around and Kai is not there but at least he didnt suffer any longer you helped ease the pain and the last face he saw was someone he loved so much

im siting here crying whilst typing away you just have to remember all thos great fun time you had together and never forget how much fun they where

our hearts go out to you
lots of love




---
Dawn X
Homer + Dee Dee
X X
 
 
jacquie
19:32:49 Thu
Jan 6 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Euthanasia is something a careing partner does for there friend.

Pitty it doesn't apply to us two legged friends.

  
kerrigan
21:45:28 Fri
Jan 7 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

:loveya ditto

  
SashasMum
00:08:22 Wed
Jan 26 2005

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

How is Clyde doing now Yvonne??

Karen :wave:

  
kerrigan
23:54:11 Mon
Jan 31 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Clyde is still on his pain medication and it is working, but for shorter terms of time, I can see him age but he doing alright just now, if Clyde could just realise he is`nt a pup anymore:jump: but then that is boxers for you,
As long as he isn`t in too much pain & can still enjoy his life I will be happy.

yvonne

  
SashasMum
08:18:30 Tue
Feb 1 2005

Offline
4352 posts
Admin


Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Katie was a pup until she was about 9 and then she was a cantankerous old mare!!!

Boxers have such a zest for life, they are a wonderful example to live by!

I am sure Clyde is happy and knows he is well loved and it sounds like he is still enjoying life to the full as well!! He certainly looks well on it!

Karen :wave:

  
molidoodle
17:13:57 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts
Mood Now: Peaceful

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I had to have both my staffies pts in 1999,4 months apart. Teri was 12,she had cancer and I knew she was on borrowed time, Bully had massive organ failure.I took them myself and stayed with them till they were at peace. I did not think I could do it, but loved them so much,couldn't bear to see them suffer.(Now I have tears streaming down my face:sad:

  
kerrigan
17:39:55 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Creative

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

:sad: Big Hugs Pat,:loveya:

yvonne

  
molidoodle
18:32:01 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts
Mood Now: Peaceful

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

Thank yvonne,theres nout like doggie people:rolleyes:

  
jacquie
21:54:57 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

O'h that is so sad:sad:

  
molidoodle
22:06:32 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts
Mood Now: Peaceful

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

It was sad, But they gave me 15 years of pleasure, and I hope they had a good life with me.They were the first dogs I had owned,and will always be very special.

  
jacquie
22:09:46 Wed
Feb 2 2005

Offline
posts

Mood Now: Tired

Reply
Re: A Very Touchy Subject--Euthanasia!???

I know what you mean! I'm sure there is a place they go and we meet up with our loved one's and pets.

  

Pages: [ 1 ]

[ Notify ][ Print ][ Send To Friend ] [ Watch ] [ < ] [ > ]

  Register :: Log In

The time is now 07:52:22 Tue Mar 31 2020

Powered By BbBoard V1.4.2
© 2001-2007 BbBoy.net