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dumbledorenme
01:45:57 Mon
Jan 1 2007

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Hi, I'm a new member + Mama to 7 month old Dumbledore (white boxer male) and 10 month old Punky (sweet + scrappy little white wire terrier mix)...as well as a 2 year old baby girl person and a 9 year old girl person (!)
My beloved white boxer girl, Nike, went to heaven this past May at 15 years of age. She was very dear to me.
I am seeking insight / advice on bonding with my new white boxer boy, Dumbledore, who is only marginally bonded to me. He's adorable - button eyes and a brindle ear. His hearing seems to be fine. It may be that this relative lack of bonding relates to his young age? I adopted Dumble at 8 weeks old. I adopted Nike when she was 11 months old from rescue, so I havn't gone through early puppyhood with a boxer before. And she was female; he's male. He's not neutered yet. I was advised to neuter him at about 1 year of age. He and Punky are always together - they cry - he especially- if crated separately and so they're crated together. Punky was here when Dumble came home and they hit it off as little baby pups together.
I hear that in multi-dog households dogs will bond to one another more that to their people. Can I offset this somehow, so that I can develop the special kind of bond with Dumble that I so treasured in my connection to Nike? (she was an only dog, btw)

  
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Hi There and :welcome:

Well we have everyone's names except yours :wink:!! First of all I am sorry to hear about Nike, it is always hard to lose a beloved boxer, but they give us so much during their lifetime, that they are with us forever afterwards.

My advice with Dumble is to relax a little more. You won't have the same bond with him yet that you had with Nike? It takes time to build it up and yes, if there is another dog in the house, you have to work a little harder at it.

The best way to build up a bond is training I think. Try and spend at least 10 mins each day where it is just you and him and do some basic training. The one on one will help and the positive encouragement he gets from you for getting it right will help him grow to trust and love you completely.

I have two girls Sasha and Tizzy. Tizzy is my latest and is a 13 week old brindle, while Sasha, my white girl, is 3 now.

Tizzy looks to Sasha for play etc, whilst Sasha always looked to us, so it is important for us to make sure we have some one on one playtime with Tizzy too. (Tizzy is my first puppy too!!)

Relax and don't worry, it will come with time, but you can help it along with the one on one time with Dumble. :luck:

Look forward to seeing pictures soon!!!!! :wave:



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22:00:02 Mon
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Hi Karen,

Thanks for the thoughtful and warm reply and the helpful advice. It sounds do-able and makes sense.

I'm Frances, from Rhode Island in the U.S.. Thought I'd registered successfully under the moniker dumbledorenme, but I seem to show as a guest for now.

Thank you for your condolences regarding Nike, too.

Have fun with your Sasha and Tizzy!

  
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Hi Frances, nice to meet you!

There is a thread about problems logging on in the Admin Announcements Forum - hopefully there will be something in there that helps.

Look forward to hearing more from you :wave:



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Hi Frances and family. :wave:
Welcome to the site.

  
ValerieMont
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I dont know if this will help much but Ill give it a shot :biggrin:

Right now we have 2 puppies about 15 weeks old and they both have very differnt personalities (we also have 3 adults). One of them just wants to be next to you at all times and snuggle and cuddle where as the other one would rather spend his time romping with the other dogs. They also use to cry when not kenneled together.

So what I have done about the bonding issues is pretty much what Sashasmum suggested, I am spending "alone" time with him each day, whether its playing in the yard, training a new command or just snuggeling in the bed, its just me and him, no ther dogs.

As far as kenneling them together, unfortunatlly the only way I could break it was to just let them cry :crying: it seemed to help if I put them where they couldnt see each other and after 3 or 4 days they got use to it and now prefer to have their own space.

Best of luck,
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01:49:53 Wed
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Hi Karen, Jill and Valerie,

Thanks for your nice replies and helpful suggestions. I brought Dumble on his first solo stroll with me this afternoon. He seemed pleased about it.
Is it beeter to crate pups separately as a rule? (Dumble's BIG and Punky's little)
My 9 year old and I love all these little smiley critters to the right. I'm going to research how to bring those over into my messages.
Off to get the puppy people to bed...

Frances



  
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Frances, if you want to add a "critter" to your reply, just click on the smiley you want to add!

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Jakes_mum
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Ooooh Valerie has stolen my witchy woman!

Liz

  
dumbledorenme
00:32:59 Fri
Jan 5 2007

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Cool! :excited:

  
ValerieMont
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Sorry about that Liz, I am now Queenly :biggrin:

  
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I think queenly suits you so much better!

Liz

  

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