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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:54:51 MonNov 17 2003 )

I just found out that the department of the company I work for will not be moving to a new location across countyr. That blast of wind you might have felt an hour was me letting out a sigh of relief. Now I have more stability and can proceed on so many fronts. I feel like a weight has been removed from my shoulders. I FEEL GOOD. :cookiemonster: :cookiemonster:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:30:27 MonNov 17 2003 )

What a joy to read this thread! Everyone is doing so great! Congrats on the kittens, Mel; Zachery, you are brave to keep trying with your mother, I hope it goes well; TC, great work with the roundtable and with the not pouting thing-- that is huge; Taran, your work with hugs is also huge; Jimmie, awesome job of listening to your friend, and how cool that you found it a relief!

This weekends I had the blues. Felt sick with my sinus infection and moped. I miss talking to the man I fell in love with; for a long time he was my confidante about my marriage, and while that was wrong, I do miss him. I don't miss my husband and wish I did. My son found his Halloween candy and binged and so was cranky and whiney and nasty. So I decided some days the most positive thing you can do is go to bed early and have a better chance of feeling good the next day! I went to bed at 9 and woke up at 7:30 (other than getting up to comfort my son at 5:30-- he was cold--) Then today I met with two girlfriends for a yummy breakfast (chocolate chip scones and coffee) while my son played, then one of my friends surprised us by inviting us to stay for lunch, and we had a delicious kalbasa (sp?) and sauerkraut soup. They both are also having a hard time, so it was good to talk and laugh and express care but mostly have fun. My little boy behaved very well and I feel very proud.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:39:44 MonNov 17 2003 )

Your morning is the kind of mornings I live for Hes. Don't get to have them much anymore...

I did go home and play with my kitten at lunch. That was great! Not as good as exercise, but you gotta dig that unconditional love!

Mel

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:18:52 TueNov 18 2003 )

When my son pulled up to my apt. yesterday, I glanced out the window, hoping my daughter was with him. She wasn't. I so wanted to ask him all about her. I didn't. I focused on enjoying my son and watching movies.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 10:43:03 TueNov 18 2003 )

Yesterday was not a great day for me just tired and cranky, but I did find something positive. One of the kids I work with turned in the verfication that he completed everything that was part of his court ordered service. I hate to say it but he is one I feared would never comply. It feels good to see a young person follow through and complete the process but its even better when its someone whom there were real concerns. It reminds me never to be too quick in our rush to judge others.

Hestia, we all have the blues sometimes. It sounds as though you handled it pretty well. Remember today we are doing the best we can. Tomorrow we shall do better.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:51:29 TueNov 18 2003 )

My ex girlfriend has sent me Seventeen emails since Friday. I just discovered them in my trashbin. I will not get baited into something more with this witch. My sanity mandates I not reply. I needed to write that for my benfit. It feels good to actually have a boundry. There really is a first time for everything!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:32:17 TueNov 18 2003 )

I have a history of being depressed throughout the winter and I've noticed the blues settling in over the last week. Its hard to do much if the depression gets too deep but over the weened I forced myself to finish a quilt I'm making for my nephew's Christmas present. He loves the big cats of Africa and this pattern is made up of lions and all the rest from the African plains. I can't wait to give it to him. :jump:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:59:50 TueNov 18 2003 )

Remember our recent discussion about how much we all hated small talk? I found myself in one of those ugly places where a visitor to our office wanted to engage in small talk. I managed to talk with him for several minutes without feeling too uncomfortable. I wouldn't say I loved the experience but it was something I might be able to build on.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:24:51 TueNov 18 2003 )

This is the first time in two weeks that someone else hasn't been parked in my space when I arrived for work. Somehow having someone in my space has always felt like an invasion and disrespect for me .I know its not the most important thing in the world for most of us, but its big for me. I've feel a little less grumpy now that I have my space back.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:43:18 WedNov 19 2003 )

I just posted about this in anothe forum but I have a sense of relief that I managed to face my T person and talk about the problems that came up last week. Usually I just storm out and never return when something like this happens. It didn't go exactly the way I hoped but it didn't turn out too bad. I definitely count this as a step in the right direction.

  
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