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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:56:10 SatNov 29 2003 )

Hi and thanks for the Christmas decorations.

There is a lot of stress starting in my life again as my ex has just started property settlement proceedings - and from his opening offer and statements, it looks like this will not be pleasant - I will post about this elsewhere later. But it has meant that my eldest is showing a very mature and supportive side - offering to help me in different ways. In Oz people buying property for the first time get a government grant and he suggested putting the new property in his name to claim the grant and then he would sign it over to me. Probably not legal or ethical but he is showing concern and trying to come up with solutions. He and I went out to drive past some houses that I may be able to afford and he kept saying good things about the places we looked at. This was a huge effort on his part as we have always lived on the same block and he was involved in the design and painting of the new house that we had only just moved into when my ex left. Both boys have been very upset over having to leave here but both are trying hard to accept it.

It is heartwarming for me to see the maturity that they are both showing in the way that they are handling this.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:03:00 SatNov 29 2003 )

I'm posting again because there has been another positive today. My eldest went out in the evening with some friends and returned almost two hours late.

I asked him calmly why he was late and he said that he had gone to a party. He said sorry for being late and sorry for not phoning me. I told him that I worry when I don't know where he is. He apologised again and gave me a kiss! This was actually the second kiss today as he gave me one this morning as well as a morning hug. :biggrin:

So today I got two hugs and two kisses from him - life is looking good.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:46:31 SatNov 29 2003 )

Balbrenny, its great to hear your son is having such a positive response to a bad situation. It might be good to be aware of the stresses that he is hiding underneath as I'm sure this is continuing to have a huge emotional toll.

My Father and I are now engaged in a process of working together on something for the family for Christmas. This is a shock to me and one that I had to think about before agreeing to do. If it works out well it may be the most healing experience we could have asked for.

I'm glad people are enjoying the holiday theme. :biggrin:




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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:50:12 SatNov 29 2003 )

Its been a few days since I posted a positve but I continue to start each day with a hug. Every morning I enjoy it just a bit more than the previous day. I hope it continues. We had a really good Thanksgiving where no one mentioned NPD and we just appreciated being a family.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:26:52 SatNov 29 2003 )

I'm going to post this as a positive, even though part of me is REALLY leary.

Since my hubby and I had our big sqabble on Wednesday, I am dealing with a different person. Part of me thinks it is because I mentioned if my Christmas bonus is a relatively good one I am looking at purchasing a car and giving him the station wagon. Hence the reason for the daily phone calls to the boys, chattiness, etc.

BUT, the other part of me wants to believe that something I said got through to him on some level and he is now willing to create a better atmosphere for our kids! (That was the majority of what the argument was about!) I'm going to belive in that until something points the other direction. (naive or not).

Have a great weekend!

Mel

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:12:20 SatNov 29 2003 )

Congratulations on the hugs and kisses, Balbrenny.

Mel, all I can say is I really hope this does turn out to be a positive for you.

I just had a relatively peaceful conversation with my wife about how we are going to handle the forthcoming holiday season. On the surface it went ver well. I hope it plays out as well as it came together during our conversation.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:31:08 SunNov 30 2003 )

I'm trying to increase my understanding of how and why some people feel the way they do about this disorder so I have decided education is the key. Right now I'm reading Scott Peck's People of the Lie. Its my first ever time reading this book, usually I stay away from something that I feel will m ake me this uncomfortable. I hope this will help me grow in some way. Either that or I should post in the sucker forum.:cookiemonster:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:50:20 SunNov 30 2003 )

My eldest son had some money stolen today by a so-called friend. He went to the police over it - a big step for a kid that has had some bad experiences with the police. But the big positive was the way my 12 year-old responded to the situation, immediately giving his brother half of his money.

The hugs and kisses from both boys continue :biggrin:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:11:40 SunNov 30 2003 )

The hugs around seem to be contagious as my son greeted me with a hug this morning, Not a bad way to begin any day. I hope it continues.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:41:40 SunNov 30 2003 )

The boys and I had a fabulous day yesterday!

They didn't stuff the cat in a drawer or box even once. We spent just over three hours at the pool swimming, watersliding and jumping off the diving board. Came home relaxed and exhausted. Everybody slept soundly last night!

I am so glad everyone is getting hugs. My day is not the same when my boys aren't around to crawl into bed with me, snuggle up close, give lots of hugs and share lot's of "I love you's".

Looking forward to a good day today. Have a great day everyone.

Mel

  
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