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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:00:29 MonDec 15 2003 )

Peace,

Taran, you sound so good. Keep you head up!
Hes, good to hear you are enjoying life!
Balbrenny, thanks for sharing your good news about your son!
Jimmie, I too can relate to the traffic issues...we have our own here in Atlanta. Hang in there.

I had a restful, chilly weekend. My husband and I snuggled and played games with the children and each other all weekend. I can see he is learning some things to do whenever he gets life seems boring.

Be a blessing,

Nandi

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:05:16 MonDec 15 2003 )

This week is off to a great start--I just got a flu ahot. My new step-father wanted me to get this shot because he is paranoid about anyone being sick around him. There is something special about getting to the doctor first thing Monday morning. I'm positive things can only get better from here. :npdhumor:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 23:31:00 MonDec 15 2003 )

Last night my youngest son and I put up our Christmas tree. It is an Australian fir and they have soft branches and soft, feathery needles. I must have picked a poor tree. It is a bit wobbly and there is something not quite right about it - it looks like some weird tree spirit with arms outstretched, advancing on a lost frightened child to gobble them up. (How's that for imagination!!)

My son and I were hysterical with laughter last night when we finished dressing it. We were both stomping round the room, arms outstretched, pretending to be the tree and saying "I'm coming to get you"! My eldest though we had gone mad. Then my youngest found an internet site with a prize for the worst decorated Christmas tree and he says he is going to enter ours!!

It is so good to be able to laugh at things like this!!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:17:04 TueDec 16 2003 )

I feel like supermom. Other than a melt down or two this evening. However, It is 8:00 pm and my little darlings are fast asleep. Generally if I get them asleep by 9:00 it's a small miracle. It's nice to know they won't be grumpy in the morning for a change.

I too am going to go to bed early!

Goodnight!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:01:34 TueDec 16 2003 )

Balbrenny there is nothing like laughter to help heal some of these wounds.

Congratulations, Supermom!

I survived a night of small talk at the annual Christmas party for my church. I still felt uncomfortable talking about stuff but in some ways it seemed to be going better than in the past so I'll count this as a positive.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:42:47 TueDec 16 2003 )

I received in an lesson in humility when my daughter made arrangments by herself to work at the local food shelter one day next week. Its a true reminder of the season and one that makes me very proud to be her father.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:16:54 TueDec 16 2003 )

I had an interesting discussion in another forum yesterday which taught me an important lesson about setting boundaries. The person I was talking with tried to make several unfounded accusations about me, this and another forum, and I believe NPD altogether. Instead of allowing this person to piss me off and lash out at the person I ended the conversation by saying I trust my judgment more than hers and I'm happy where I am in this process. I feel good about the fact this person was not able to force me to act out.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 22:35:17 TueDec 16 2003 )

Its been a while since I posted a positive so here goes nothing. This morning I felt myself getting very frustrated and had some thoughts of doing some juvenile acting out at work. This is astressful time for everyone at the place and everyone is tired and cranky. I felt my fit coming on and I walked away, said I was going on break and went for a walk in the cold. I cold off and came back more able to get the work done and forget the problem. I probably would have been fired had I said what I wanted to this morning so its a positive I still have a job.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 22:46:40 TueDec 16 2003 )

Weissfamily, you should feel humble, and proud at the same time! With a daughter like that, clearly you're doing something right.
Taran, good work. You could've let the anonymity of the web tempt you to act out, but you didn't. I'm impressed-- I'm not so sure I would've done as well.
Drac, awesome work!

Well, I did very good and exhausting work in marriage counseling today. Talked about some of the stuff with my husband around what happened when I had cancer and with our sex life. It was very hard. My husband is to sit with it for awhile before he responds. I don't think it will make any big changes for us-- I just don't trust him, especially with the physical abuse stuff-- but if he can get even a little insight into his behavior, it could start him on a path to healing. Which would be wonderful for him, and for our son. I am praying that it can happen.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 12:21:14 WedDec 17 2003 )

It sounds like everybody is making great progress on their journey towards healing!

This morning, my eldest son woke me up to tell me that he had just had a turn on his friend's peewee motorbike - he was so excited but I was so happy that he wanted to share this with me. His friend had come round early (it is his sister's bike) and they had been on the firetrail behind our house.


  
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