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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:53:43 WedDec 17 2003 )

The last 12 hours have not been great so I've been challenging myself to find the positive or the lesson to be learned. So far the most positive thing I can say is I've not lost my temper or acted on some of my urges in response to a family crisis. Impulse control is not exactly one of my great assets so I have to call this at least a small amount of progress.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:50:37 WedDec 17 2003 )

I've never been one to take a lot of chances but a friend convinced me to enter some of my photographs in a local competition. Its the first time I've ever done that even though people have suggested this before. I found out yesterday I won second place out of almost 250 entries. Kind of a nice surprise and boast to my ego, I needed it because I was feeling kind of exhausted with the season.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:36:48 ThuDec 18 2003 )

To be honest this has been kind of a sinky day. About the only good thing I can say about it is it started with another hug.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:54:57 ThuDec 18 2003 )

Gosh, Jimmie, I would say that's HUGE! Way to go.

Congratulations fof. That's awsome!

Starting the day with a hug is a terrific way to start the day, Taran. It's wonderful that despite the sinky day that you remembered it.

I won the ribbon at Toastmasters last night. I was very tickled. I wish I didn't need so much impetus to make a speech. I think I'll start working on one with "Shopping is a Science" as a theme ... grin.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:35:09 ThuDec 18 2003 )

One of my co-workers just gave me a beautiful necklace as a gift for Christmas. I was feeling very down due to my husband and I not being able to agree about his other children and how he chooses to spend time with them. The gift really lifted my spirits. God is good like that..:littleangel:.

Peace & balance,

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:18:24 ThuDec 18 2003 )

I just got the news for the fall semester. I earned a 3.75 for the period. One hell of a lot better than people told me to expect going in and even better than I expected to be able. I'm off academic probation for next semester and should be able to keep my financial aide. No complaints here. One big sigh of releif. I can breath again. :crazy:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:48:09 ThuDec 18 2003 )

Long story short, my husband and I managed to turn a potentially huge argument into an agreement that ended with a hug! (my idea, not his!)

Feels good to work something out. He even apologized to me. I guess I am getting better at dealing with things. I managed to not shed even one tear! I hope we can continue to keep the lines of communication open. It is hard, takes a lot of work and we both still say the wrong things, but we seem to be better at following through to the end.

CONGRATS Bikerboy! I'm a lousy student so I know how good that must feel.

FOF, that is so exciting for you.

Isn't it nice to be appreciated Nandi?

Life, that is great news!

Take care all.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:50:57 FriDec 19 2003 )

Bikerboy, holy cow! Good work!

Well, I had another good session today in marraige counseling, and actually individual therapy too, though due to snow I missed the first 20 minutes. In marriage counseling, I set some new boundaries with my husband. We will now be spending one less day together each week, and how he visits my son during the week will be more structured. In individual counseling, we started really delving into some of my issues. She asked how I felt after working on this, and I said, "A little ashamed and embarrassed. Mainly exhausted. And glad because I know this is progress." All in all, really good work, and boy am I tuckered out!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 11:42:53 FriDec 19 2003 )

Congratulations, Bikerboy - you must have worked really hard!

Mel, it's fantastic that you are managing to keep things so positive with your ex - I know how hard it is.

Hestia, I hope that the new arrangements make it easier for you to cope for the future. Good Luck!

Nandi, I hope things work out for Christmas.

Life, I hate public speeaking - I am in total awe of anyone who wins a Toastmaster award - well done!

Taran, keep focusing on the hugs - those are the important things in life!

Free, that is wonderful news - your photos must be good to get a prize against all that competition.

Jimmie, you are doing so well to keep things together during such a hard time.

Today was my youngest son's last day at his primary school. It was a sad yet happy day. Apart from having 2 sons go through the school, most of my friends are parents from the school. There are only 140 students at the school and it is a very caring supportive environment.

Last night was the farewell party for the twenty pupils who are going into High school. The staff had made a video of their last year and we watched it amid tears and laughter and then each student was given a copy of it before having to walk through an arch made by the arms of teachers, staff, parents and younger pupils.

Each pupil was given a humorous award and my youngest son got the James Bond Award for his charm, wit and sharp mind!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 13:41:42 FriDec 19 2003 )

Yesterday I received a letter from one my cousins who I lived with for a while after my dad killed himself. He said he wants to get to know me better. It strikes me as weird to say this after all this time of not showing any interest. I spent most of tonight working on a response but so far haven't come up with much other than thanks for caring. He might be the first person other than my T person to ever show this much interest in me.

  
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