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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:21:57 FriDec 26 2003 )

Well, as can probably be surmised from my posts, I am in a rotten mood, which makes it easy for me to be surly. In spite of this, it was the best Christmas I've had for a long time. Could it be because I just took care of myself and let everything else be?! Anway, my toddler hasn't slept hardly at all in two days, so I am just exhausted. I have a pounding headache that just won't go away no matter what I take. It feels like a hangover, but I didn't have anything to drink. Hope it's not the flu. My positive is I'm focusing on resting today and I hope that will allow me to me more positive and focused on healing tomorrow. Some days that's the best you can do, I guess.


  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:06:44 SatDec 27 2003 )

I take it that Christmas is over for another few months!?

I'm with those who say this is not your favorite time of the year. This year is better than last because I'm not in jail. Its better than two years ago because I was at least aware of Christmas,which is more than I can say for a couple years there. I believe if I stay sober for this new week past News Years my chances of making it go up a lot. I want this whole season over because it makes it too hard to stay focused on what I need to be doing. Stay sober, stay sober, stay sober.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 10:30:12 SatDec 27 2003 )

My friend just said that he feels I've kept my since of humor through all the problems with my ex and that has to count as a positive.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:09:44 SatDec 27 2003 )

I'd say that's a huge positive, Rags! Stay focused, friendly!

My son fell asleep at 5 p.m. and I couldn't wake him up. Then he was up at 7:30 wanting dinner. I fed him, he went back to bed until 10:30. Then he was up running all over the house! Usually I would get in a power struggle with him trying to get him back in bed. Instead, I just focused on my breathing. I told him it was time for mommy to be in bed asleep. He could play with his toys if he wanted. I drifted off and on to sleep, woke up once when he said he wanted a banana. Wonder where that went. Anyway, at 2:30, I woke up and he was out cold next to me. I took him to his bed and he is just now waking up at 9 a.m. Maybe it wasn't the world's most ideal parenting, but I am proud of him for being independent and letting me rest, if not sleep, and of myself for not getting bent out of shape and uptight about it. Hopefully we will now get back to regular sleep schedules.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:16:30 SatDec 27 2003 )

Hes, wahat is a regular sleep schedule? I'm not sure I've ever had one of those. :biggrin:

I'm still reflecting on the time with my Dad. I think I'll not try to over analyze it, at least until after the second Christmas this weekend.... I hope this is not a trend we've established for coming years.

Yesterday was great because I got reunited with cat who had to spend Christmas eve and Christmas Day at my Mom's house. She is a spoiled rotten little child and would not handle being alonge for 24 hours. Mom has several cats of her own but my cat dislikes them all. She gets along okay with mom although mom refuses to give her snacks in the manner she is accoustomed to around here. Starbright was following me around after she got back purring her head off and talking to me. Its great to have some unconditional love for the holidays. :biggrin:




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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:40:01 SatDec 27 2003 )

Its been a colorful holiday season (more coming soon) but one positive stands out. On Christmas Eve my son's former best friend stole a car from a local dealership and wrrecked it not far from our house. Needless to say he is currently in a detention center awaiting a hearing. My positive is obvious in that my son was not in that car and was at home with us. Never mind that things we're interesting enough on the home front, at least he was there. Moments like these make you want to hug your child and keep them safe from the world.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:39:06 SatDec 27 2003 )

Nothing that resembles normal sleep patterns in my house either! Not just at this time of year.

Well, I made it through Christmas day without shedding a single tear. Christmas Eve was a different story, but my boys and I managed to get through the tears and find the real problem.

Christmas day was fun, fun, fun. I tried not to reflect on Christmas's past too much and managed to have a good time. Boxing day was very relaxing too.

Just gotta get through New Year's.

Hang in there Friendly!

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 17:58:51 SatDec 27 2003 )

Sorry I haven't been around much but at the last minute I decided to go with my friend and spend Christmas at his cabin. Its about as far removed from this city has anything I can imagine. He has electricity, sometimes, so I relate to what Tc said. I had a blast. The best Christmas in years. Now I have to face the fact I didn't tell anyone in my family where I was going. There are some angry phone messages and even angrier emails. I honestly don't care. I needed this for me. I feel refreshed and hopefully ready to go with a year of healing. Thanks to everyone for what you've given me over this past year.

Have fun everyone :cookiemonster:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:06:44 SunDec 28 2003 )

Normal sleep schedules round here used to be 10 p.m. to 6 a.m.-- with a child, it's anything resembling 7 or 8 hours without interruption! Which is what I will get tonight... My husband has our son this weekend. The past two times this has happened, I've stayed home, presumably to clean, but I think what I was really doing was moping. This time, I've decided one afternoon of the weekend is enough cleaning, and I spent this whole day having fun! Tomorrow, I hope to do some real work-- not just cleaning, either, but real creative honest to God work. WIth any luck, I'll keep banishing the mopes one day at a time.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 08:58:05 SunDec 28 2003 )

Hi everybody - I'm just glad Christmas is over and that I managed to get through it without getting too depressed, angry or upset.

While I know how hard families can be, it's positive that you all still have parents, siblings, etc to moan about! I miss my family so much at times like this - my parents and adopted sister are dead and, apart from my children, I have no-one. I am blessed with many good friends but there is a difference.

My positive is that I received an email from the UK from the natural brother of my adopted sister (she and I adopted each other as adults as we had no family in Oz and when my mum emigrated, my mum 'adopted' her as another daughter. My adopted sister and I referred to each other as sisters for 14 years, until she died of cancer last year). I have met her blood brother a few times and we got on really well together. In his email he said how much he missed me and referred to me as his sister.

This is a huge positive for me as I miss her so much - to have some connection with her brother and to know that he feels as fond of me as his sister helps me to feel as if I have a family.-

  
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