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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 21:43:27 SunJan 11 2004 )

I survived a long trip with my three year old. I survived my family. Two positives. Good to be home.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:29:38 MonJan 12 2004 )

Very, very tired. I'm too old to act like a 23 year old...

But, had a very good weekend with my parents and children. Trying not to think about the week ahead.

TC, we are waiting...

Still just happy to be alive.

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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:53:08 MonJan 12 2004 )

Hello, I thought I'd better check in so people didn't start to think I eloped or something. :evillaugh:

Saturday night went very smooth for a first date. I had some serious nerves leading into this,but it turned out to be for no good reason. The evening started with an informal dinner and than we took in a movie. We kept the conversation going fairly strong during our time together. Even more impressive was that she called last night and we talked for a while. There are no definite plans for another date but something may open up. I believe that door is open and it may be up to me to make the next move.

This was my first date in a long time and I have to say it went better than I feared . Maybe there is something there about fear not being as bad as I tend to make it. I'll think about that. I don't have a lot of experience to base any conclusions on but I'm going to call this a a positive. It was nice to spend an evening with a person I have a lot in common with. All I can really say right now is time will tell where this might lead.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:42:56 TueJan 13 2004 )

TC, I'm so glad your date was enjoyable.
Visiting my family has left me feeling in the twilight zone again. I'm too old to be affected like this by them. Anyway, my positive is that I am just staying in touch with what I'm feeling and taking care of myself. I know this funk will pass. And my son is absolutely flourishing. He seems to have completely adapted to dad living at another house, at least for this phase of things. What a blessing!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 09:11:40 TueJan 13 2004 )

Hi, I've missed everyone here. Last week I took a nasty fall on my ass and cracked my tailbone. It hurts like heck to sit even though I'm on pain killers and have a cushion thing. The end result has been I've not been doing much on the computer. I think its trying to get a little better, so I'll be around as much as I can. My positive is that I've done a decent job of keeping my humor through all of this despite being kind of miserable.

TC I'm glad the date went okay. I hope you go slow and don't follow my lead with the ladies., :npdhumor:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 14:18:53 TueJan 13 2004 )

I'm glad you enjoyed your date, TC. I think you should go ahead and make the next move if you are interested, since it sounds like she is. :puppylove:

I was starting to wonder where you were, zachery. Sorry to hear about your fall. I heard that kind of injury can be nasty.

I had a really good pity party earlier this morning since I hardly got any sleep last night, but I managed to pull myself out of it so I can drag my ass into work today. I know that might not sound very positive, but compared to the mood I was in earlier it is absolutely bubbly. :npdhumor:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 15:03:29 TueJan 13 2004 )

Sorry to hear about your fall, Zachery.

If it makes you feel any better CoolBlonde I'm in a similar mood, :demon: Must be something in the air.

I did work up the courage to call my friend last night and we had a good talk. The subject of a second date did come up and it looks like we'll probably do something fairly soon. I seem to have a rather active social calendar, at least by my normal standards. I did promise my therapist we would wait until he got back from vacation before we get married, He wants a free meal at the wedding. :newtonguesmile:



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 16:47:07 TueJan 13 2004 )

I've got the countdown going to four months without using. So far, so good.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:09:17 WedJan 14 2004 )

Excellent job, friendly! Zachery, I busted my tailbone several years ago so I know what you're going through. It takes a long time but it will heal. Now you know exactly what people mean when they talk about a pain in the a--. And yes there is a general funk going around. I've got the pity party blues myself, in case anyone hadn't noticed:rolleyes: Anyway, I know this isn't net protocol, since we're supposed to stay anonymous and stuff, but TC, if you get married, I'm willing to do the wedding for free-- I'm legal and everything!!!:lol:

Ok, I'm going to try and keep coming up with a positive every day, even when I'd rather just mope. My positive is I was able to stay focused on taking care of my son today even though I had the blues. Now I'm going to bed. Look at that. Another positive. This day is over.:frowntobiggrin:

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 03:25:23 WedJan 14 2004 )

So much for the mope stuff. Just checked my email and got a cool note from a friend who works for an international humanitarian organization. She is in Mongolia; she just left Iraq. A constant reminder of just how lucky I am to have food on the table and a roof over my head. My son is warm in his bed, healthy and strong, and he is my miracle. The cancer didn't kill me, and I have to admit, I really thought that it would. I'm going to get to see him grow up. And hopefully I'll someday be able to set some things right that I've done wrong. Even more hopefully, someday I might get to live life better, be more whole. For me, thinking about what I should be grateful for eases my funk ever time. Thank God for this community and the opportunity to post a positive or two. Goodnight all.

  
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