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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:31:45 SatApr 24 2004 )

A week or so ago I had a very tense discussion with the man my Mother married last week in which he stated that I'm on my own in terms of healing. No one wants to hear about it at this point. At first this really ticked me off for a variety of reasons. However it started me thinking about the extent of genorisity, support and kindness that I've experienced of late. It feels good to see that, not because it shows the error of thinking of another, but because I see that I'm anything but alone in this journey.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 00:11:06 SunApr 25 2004 )

That's cool Tony.

I'm happy for you. I know I shouldn't be harping on this, but news like yours helps me dispel my lingering worries about sammy boy and the cult and all their hatred about us.

Three more weeks of real school before AP exams are over. Thank God. And then my college friends will be getting home. Kunal and I are gonna watch Gladiator together sometime. It's my favorite after all.


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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
- Herman Hesse, Steppenwolf
 
 
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 04:16:25 SunApr 25 2004 )

I watched some of Terminator 2 with my sister. We're both very into the idea of time travel so it was interesting and sparked a lot of conversation. It also sadly reminded me of how machinelike and automatic I am sometimes in the way I think... that I'm just like a scanning machine, trying to analyze the environment and do whatever I can to survive. Emotions are the way out of this, I'm positive.


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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:52:53 SunApr 25 2004 )

Hey, everybody, just hopped on real quick for a positive. I am cleaning my house and loving it! Then I wondered, why did I let it get to be such a mess? And the answer came to me, "Because it was fun to let it get messy knowing there was no one who was going to complain about it. Because it was fun to test your own tolerance for messiness and let it go even a little beyond that. Because it was fun to decide for yourself when it was time to clean." I called my mom to check in and mentioned this to her. She said, "I'm not surprised. You were always terribly uptight about the house being perfect all the time. And now we all know why."

Watch out, world. Hes is back!!!

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 18:55:37 SunApr 25 2004 )

I've been keeping very busy this semester and I've noticed a definite decrease in the amount of time I spend doing sadistic fantasies. Others can determine the importance but I think it has to be a good sign.

  
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 19:39:45 SunApr 25 2004 )

I was just working on a poem that's related to the true and false self dilemma that we narcissists struggle with. Here's what I have so far.

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"The Child and the Shadow"

I have been watching you, quiet one,
Sad one, for slowly tread you past these shores,
While beside you walk two figures:
One, a child; and a shadow - yours.

Slowly turn you to the shadow,
And in heated whispers do converse.
While the child tugs your leggings,
And you offer only a silent curse.

Longingly looks the child up at you,
Like the sun that is always rising,
Green and golden, a playful lamb,
Yet the shade plays his role - disguising.

Then fiendishly turns the shadow down,
With red-gray eyes to freeze the child,
But then it rose! - The tidal wave,
That washed you and shade off - for miles.

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It's sketchy so far, and might actually do better as a ballad rather than a short poem. I don't know how I want to finish it either. We'll see....

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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
- Herman Hesse, Steppenwolf
 
 
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 20:07:14 SunApr 25 2004 )

Yesterday this guy I have been seeing for a little over a month now referred to me as his "girlfriend", so I guess I officially have a boyfriend now. :newtonguesmile: He is 50 and never married and no kids, so we have a lot in common, for better or worse. I'm sure he would qualify for membership on this board, but what else is new. :npdhumor: The good thing is that he is open minded about a lot of new age/alternative stuff, so I talked to him a little about Attitudinal Healing and he seems open to it.

Hestia, speaking of birds reacting to stress, it is true that they are very emotional. I have two Eclectus parrots, Myron and Diva. Myron has been in emotional turmoil all weekend due to this new "intruder" in his home, who stayed overnight on Friday. He has been squawking at me and growling and being very demanding, and he also tried to bite me. He was also glaring at my boyfriend the whole time he was here. I think he is very jealous since he sees this new person as a rival for my affections.





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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:36:18 MonApr 26 2004 )

I just wrote a seven page government paper, the last one of the year. Thank Goddddd.....

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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
- Herman Hesse, Steppenwolf
 
 
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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 02:35:05 MonApr 26 2004 )

I had a major breakthrough today and finally did my laundry ! :claphands: Now it will only take me a year to put it all away.



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Re: 1,000 positive stepping stones on the path to healing ( 01:54:48 TueApr 27 2004 )

I had a good therapy session today. And my cat has moved back to the sofa :wink:


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You know, of course, where this other world lies hidden. It is the world of your own soul that you seek. Only within yourself exists that other reality for which you long. I can give you nothing that has not already its being within yourself... All I can give you is the impulse, the key. I can help you to make your own world visible. That is all.
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